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Well, obviously you’re obsessing and your thinking is negative. Pay attention to the advice your therapist gives you. Get out and do fun things. If you’re a Christian, go to church. Ask God for help to sustain you. Divert your attention to pleasant things.
You don’t have to be miserable during this time, the choice is yours!
Yeah, ok, you are right… Is just the fear that is making me feel this way! So, I let her text me whenever she wants or text her again? let’s say in September?
Fear, worry, and stress are under your control. You have a choice whether or not to be obsessed, worried, negative, and fearful.
She wrote:”So first I need distance from you so I can be good by myself and then to see if I’ll get back to you!” Therefore, continue no contact. If you call or text her sometime in September, do not talk about the relationship. Just ask how she’s doing and make it short!
Quick update: I sent her a message to ask her how is she and and how was her vacations! She had a couple of laughs (don’t know if she was laughing at all) she asked about mine and that’s all! Nothing serious and it felt like she was distant!
Stop sending her messages. If she initiates, give short replies. She already told you she doesn’t see a future with you. She’s stressed to complete her masters degree in September, right? So give her space and time to study. Have a serious conversation after she completes her studies and gets her degree. At that time, you could ask her if there is any chance to reunite as a couple.
She will finish in January! I don’t think that is a good idea to ask that cause she is going to feel pressured again!
Okay, don’t initiate calls or texts! Give her space and time to study!
If she contacts you first, give polite very short replies! Long drawn out conversations can be tedious, tiring, and sometimes boring.
Wait until after she completes her studies in January to have a serious discussion! It’s only a few months away, so be more patient!
In the meantime, continue therapy and work on your flaws!
She is still in love with me, she really loves me so much but she can’t believe that it will be different the next time and if she try and see that it is the same it’s gonna hurt a lot and she is trying to protect herself!! I was in her house at that time! I left and went back again, We stayed for six hours, we were hugging, kidding and it was pure love!! Then we tried to have sex, I couldn’t she said that it was for the best and we were hugging naked on the bed for an hour looking at my eyes without saying a thing, then we had sex and she said that it was awesome!! Everything was great, we were laughing, kissing, touching, hugging! We’ve had 6 wonderful hours! But she can’t believe in changes… I don’t know.. maybe she will, maybe she won’t, maybe I’ll try, maybe I won’t!
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