I regretted my rash decision, I want a second chance

Hi Kevin,

Background story: My (ex)boyfriend and I broke up slightly over a mth ago (21 Sept). We were together for close to 5 months. However, my insecurities of the relationship got the better of me and I started closing in. Eventually, I initiated a break up, he said we should take time off to think about it. After 1 wk he made the final shot n called it off. He said he likes me alot but he doesn’t want to be with someone who doesnt want to be with him. I was devasted, a part of me was hoping that he would ask me back but he didnt.

Current situation: I didn’t know about the NC rule before this. I’ve only just came upon your 5 step plan article. Needless to say, we were still in contact. He has been nice and patient with me throughout the breakup. He’ll respond to my texts n questions. In this 1 mth I have texted him n brought up getting back together twice, I’ve also asked him why we didn’t work out. And his responds would all be along the lines of, if u weren’t happy then, ull be unhappy in the future (when asked about getting back together). While I have asked him about getting back, I haven’t resorted to drastic actions (I.e, call him, knock on his door, cry infront of him).

I felt the relationship was short lived. In retrospect, there are things that could’ve been worked on/ talked through rather than me asking for a break. And I just want that second chance to try and make things right. Because other than my insecurities about the relationship, everything else was fine – we had good chemistry and I was happy for the most part. IF it doesn’t work out the second time around, then I’ll accept the fact that we’re not meant to be. But for now I really want a second chance.

My dilemma: Should I still go with the 30 days NC rule? We are in the same class with projects together, so not talking entirely would be impossible. Also, he has been nice with me throughout the entire breakup, and I sense he might still like me because he initiates conversations with me, and said he “still likes me but it’s just not going to work out for now”. However, in the last few days his messages have lessened and seemed impersonal. And I’m afraid I might really lose him entirely this time. I must add that he was cheated on by his first love, so trust is an issue with him. So I’m scared that if I apply the NC rule he might think I’m not interested anymore, and lessen whatever trust he has in me. Plus, I don’t want to hurt his feelings by ignoring him, especially since he has been nice with me even after the break. I DON’T WANT TO LOSE ANY POSSIBLE CHANCES I COULD HAVE WITH HIM. So help me pls? Any other tips you can give based on my situation? It would be greatly appreciated.

By the way, I’m 22 n he’s 24.