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My girlfriend and I have been broken up for about two months. She has been dating someone else for about a month or so. I have tried no contact but it has only lasted a few days before one of us contacts the other. Last week she started texting and calling me saying how much she missed and loved me but then we got in a big fight.
I asked her if we could meet so I could tell her some things that would help me to move on. She agreed. I just finished telling her that she was the most wonderful, beautiful, intelligent woman I have ever been with and that I want to spend my life with her. I even asked her to marry me. She told me that she still cares about me but that she doesn’t want to be with me anymore. She doesn’t think that she could be happy with me. She also said that she doesn’t think the guy she is with now is the one but that she likes dating him.
I’m not sure what to do now. I won’t contact her but I don’t feel like there is a chance she will ever come back. Should I just move on? I don’t want to keep a hope only to find that she will never come back. Having hope is painful. Does anybody have any advice here? Has anyone had no contact work to get their girlfriend back?
Arghghgh! I’m so useless right now.
I think that is the hardest part about all of this is that there is so little we can do in terms of our ex. That is why it is so important to focus on ourselves. So hard though.
I don’t know whether you should move on or not, the thing is, you can only move on when you are ready to move on. Not sooner.
Yesterday, I posted a success story under the title success story. It is a woman that I work with who got back with an ex after 46 days No Contact, and he dated another woman in the interim. So, people do get back together sometimes.
probably shouldnt have told her those things. it sucks cause i did the same, (only after 8 days of no contact, im a no hoper hahaha) its been 12 days since we broke up and 4 since i last spoke to her… give it time. she knows how you feel. if she wants you in her life, i guess she’ll make it known! i think my problem is i always go for strong women.. they tend to be stubborn and once they decide something… i have managed to convince her that we are good together and got back together a few times (we are good together, just fight over silly immature things about our love) i dunno if she’ll contact me, i asked her to let me know whats happening with my stuff she still has.
i doubt ill even get a message from that. but i guess when she started wondering why i havent asked for my stuff back, ill have my foot in the door… i guess you can only do the same. i know how hard it is believe me. first time ive been it the situation i didnt do too well.. this is my second long term relationship (both of my exs and i were extremely close, best friends stuff. all of it. no shame. it was great. heres hoping she cant find anything like that again.. kinda a sad want, she deserves to be happy, but i want to be the one to make it so
could you give me some advice on my situation?
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