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Hi,
My ex and I were together for five years and she left me two months ago. We never had any fights, and for the most part we had a good relationship.
Before our breakup she went on vacation on her own. During that vacation we had a fight over a guy she was hanging out with there, he was from a diffrent country. After that fight our contact wasn’t fun anymore and she just stopped contacting me. When she got home she admitted she was attracted to that guy and had kissed him. She told me our relationship didn’t work anymore and stuff like that and dumped me. I was very emotional at this moment and we both couldn’t stop crying.
After a month I asked if she wanted to get a drink together because I graduated and she was my support trough the years. She told me she didn’t want to be friends and seeing me wouldn’t work for her.
After a week I texted her again. My brothers saw her on all the dating apps like tinder (she is not on them anymore), and I mean all of them. So I asked her if I was just a toy to her. She assured me I was not and she had I though too and didn’t contact me because she thought it was better for both of us.
Two weeks ago I got drunk and called her, she didn’t pick up. The next day I apologised and told her I was curious how she was doing at that moment. No response. So then I texted her that she was right, it’s over and I shouldn’t ask stuff like that and I apologised for my behaviour. Again no response.
I seemed very needy and made a lot of mistakes. And I don’t know what I should text her next, or when, or if I should. Any ideas? Sorry for the long story.
Dude, I feel you. I was in a 5.5 year relationship which my ex GF ended at the beginning of the year. It’s honestly been the hardest time of my life but I can tell you I’m feeling a LOT better now.
It’s been 6 months for me now and I still think about her and I together. I can only hope that we get together again one day.
I made all the same mistakes as you by being needy and begging etc I even did the drunk calling mistake which really backfired. However I have given her space by not contacting her much and also improving myself in this time.
I think you just need to stop contacting her, make her miss you and work on yourself in that time. Unfortunately we cant do anything to make them come back. It has to be their decision. We can only try and change their mind by showing them how we have changed.
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