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I’ll try to sum it up as short as possible, so I leave some details out – feel free to ask for it. Or also if something stays unclear…
We are both in our early/mid 30s, we were dating for 6-7 weeks and everything was going well.
He told me how much he likes me, that I am his baby and he is my boy etc. We did not sleep together until just right before that.
A few days after he telling me this I went a fee days for vacation. He even “marked” me and told me to behave. A few days later he responded almost not, but said he just had stress at work.
Again a few days later he told me he has some problems he cannot talk with anyone about and has to deal with it alone and that nothing is wrong with me. And then he ghosted me and eventually deleted me on FB and blocked me on WA. I left him a letter at his stable (couldn’t meet him there in person).
Now, just a month after being super in love with me, he updated his status on FB into in a relationship – he has almost everything on private but this is public. Just after I posted a picture, where I was at his old stable. He also deleted one mutual friend which I added a week ago. So he obviously also sneaks on my page.Is there some chance that he just has a rebound and will come around again?
Yes, he’s probably in a rebound, but don’t wait around for him. Get on with your life..
If he comes around at a later time, work through the issues, but if he doesn’t, it wasn’t meant to be.
6-7 weeks doesn’t sound like you got through the whole honeymoon phase. I won’t give you any hope here. Most of the relationship that end before 3 months, meant nothing.
I don’t understand why the break up happened. Was he the player type? I need more info on the relationship.
Anyway if he doesn’t reach out to apologize soon for what he did to you, he is not worth waiting for. Like Patricia said get on with your life.
Well I mean I am not sitting at home and just crying over him – yes, there is crying of course, but mostly I do what it good for me or makes me feel good.
I also don’t understand why it happened, really. There was absolutely nothing that pointed towards it – everything was fine and we were going a good way until I left for my vacation. And even then he told me for example that of course he’ll keep me warm when I’m back.
Told me that everything is ok and gave me a long explanation about why he cannot talk with me about his problems right now and how sorry he is and that he knows how bad I must feel.Also he actually is not really a player type. He took everything slow with me, tried to do it the right way and not rush too fast.
I see. He is definitely in a rebound. Probably something upset him with you and thats why he decided to break it off. Lets see what the future has for you.
If that rebound fails he will have to face the problems with you.
You know I also do my cryings from time to time. I guess its normal. Thats how you can get some pain out. I cry because I also have no idea what happened. I mean we were together 8 years and living together for 2. So many things happened that any one could of been the problem, but I don’t exactly know. How can we change something we don’t know? My ex told me he didn’t know why it happened. Im sure he knows but doesn’t want to say it.
We have like 8 months that he followed through with my break up decition. So We will never be back together. I say that he broke up with me but in reality i was so mad i broke up with him and then called to get back together but he said no. The big rejection after everything we have been through together.
I’m sorry for you, I know it’s hard.
I broke up with my ex after more than 6 years. He really wanted me back and for a short time I considered it, but in the end we both didn’t feel it. And my decision was well thought through.
I think the problem is, that doing sth in anger cannot be taken back so easily…I don’t know if he HAS to face it. I mean, he could easily continue as now, even if this with this other girl fails.
I mean, he even deleted a close friend of his after I had her on FB (no I didn’t plan this, I didn’t even know until then they knew each other).And I try to think what might have made him upset – did I maybe not give him enough affection? I’m not as open with it as he is but I did my best. Did I not make him feel attractive? Well, I didn’t give him as many compliments as he did, but sure I did. Did I demand too much? Well, he never told me otherwise and even did more…
I don’t know it – I guess I’ll have to see what to do after a few weeks of only for myselfYou are right. Thinking it though i told him I didn’t like his family and told him not to stay with someone who doesn’t like them. I guess I sabotaged myself alot. After our break up he asked me why did we cut his phone line. I made the break up official with my actions. I know there is some lovely guy waiting for me out there.
If he really loved you, he will face it and hopefully apologize. Don’t wait for it though. Some people have so much pride that they will never admit they were wrong. You experienced this before. It hurst at first but then you kind of forget.
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