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I’ve effectively (no stalking her social media profiles, no texting, no stalking her through mutual friends, etc) been doing no contact for 16 days now. There was a period of confidence I felt during the beginning where the anxiety was at a minimum level. As time went on, I feel like the depression and anxiety has increased rather than the alternative. More or less I feel like I’m moving in reverse here. I’ll note also that I’ve kept up with working on myself and consistently making sure I’m taking steps in the right direction. I’ve been doing all the Advanced Healing worksheets and reading all Emails from the sites moderator religiously. Has anyone else been going through this? And if so, what has been your method of dealing with it? Any input will be appreciated.
As time goes by, you will feel more self confident and the depression concerning the past will lift. Sounds like you’re doing all the right things. Don’t obsess over your ex. Do things you enjoy. Spend more time with family and friends. Spend time on hobbies etc..
It’s pretty tough. But I give you so much credit for staying in NC. Everyone has their doubts in NC methods, but it really does work. It made my ex text me back everyday, every other hour, and trying to plan dates. At the end I decided not to go back. There was no point going back to the person who lost my trust.
My best friend who is dealing with a break up and is trying no contact, had her doubts about NC until I sent screenshots of my success of NC. Which helped her feel a little bit more confident. You also would really have to creat a list of good and bad things about your relationship. Making a list helps you determine if it worth saving. as time go by just build a better you. Go out and have fun! Meet new people and pick up a new hobby 🙂
Thank both of you for your responses.
I’ve been making plans to go out with friends and enjoy myself more. I have a new career opportunity coming up, and have also been active in my hobbies. For some reason, I can’t shake thoughts of her out of my head though. Part of that comes from rejection pain I think. Your mind just goes into overdrive.
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