did i friendzone myself :/

Dude just live your life as usual. But of course get rid of your insecurities, you are also full of them now. Get some confidence.

You will know when to act when she gets rid of her placeholder. Until then don’t worry about anything. You have been together for 2 years. That’s long enough to get intimate. Once you are that close with someone, there is actually no such thing as being friendzoned. You are either in or out. If you play your cards right as I laid it out, you are gonna swing the situation to your end in no time. Don’t get stuck in her comment saying you are her friend. That could have been said with or without the new guy. Just play it cool and don’t get emotional.

One step at a time. Don’t think too much ahead. It will distract you from the course. We are here, you can come for opinion again when some development occurs.

Placeholder = new guy

She wants to feel secure as far as your relationship with her goes. Friendship is the way to go without anything attached. This way neither party gets hurt. She could have said it to you even if she didn’t have a boyfriend.

You really ought to read Relationship Rewind. There are bunch of real life examples there for a variety of situation. You will also gain experience and eliminate some of your insecurities regarding women.

Secure as in no worries about nothing. No responsibilities, no obligations.

Arjum I’m sorry to tell you this but you need to grow some balls! You must put in mind that friendship isn’t a option. Don’t be happy for her, she left you god dammit. By displaying that emotinonal crap your pushing her away.

My advice to you:

1. Don’t contact her in any circunstances for at least one month (I would recommend even more), even if she begs you.
2. Make yourself more attractive!
– More muscles, less body fat
– New clothes
– Build your confidence!
3. Meet other women
– the hotter they are the better, if your ex knows your seeing other women that’s even hotter than her it will blow her mind.

Never ever say that you sill care or love her. She must feel that you don’t love her anymore. Don’t talk about emotions, real men don’t talk about emotions, at least in the attraction phase. Talking about emotions demonstrates weakness. Weak men are so unattractive!

Basically this is what your ex is trying to communicate you:

“I really need a confident strong man to take care of me, but everytime I reach to you , you display so many pathetic traits of a weak man. Now I’m sure I made the right decision leaving you! I’m glad I’m with this new guy”

“Maybe next week I’ll try to reach again just to see if you had grow some balls. I really hope you would just ignore me, it would mean that you’ve some self-control which is very attractive in a real man. Maybe then my attraction for you will grow.”

Don’t get offend by this but you need to awake pal. I’ve been seen another women and talk with many guys who has success with women and believe me! Nice guys finish last!