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Hi, I am Sherry, 23 years old. I read the 5 steps plan and relationship rewind but I am still very confused about what to do with my current situation.
My ex boyfriend(20 years old) and I brok up on 11/11/2015. This is our second breakup. We have been together for 2 years in total. We discussed the reasons of our breakup honestly. One week after our breakup, I called to apologise to him and he said he forgave me and was no longer angry with me. However he never apologise for what he did wrong. Two weeks after our breakup, he told me that he still had feelings for me and he still loved me and missed me but the safest way was to be friends as if we got back together in a short time the same problems would happen again. I told him that I agreed and I respected that.
He and I both are able to talk about feelings( positive and negative ones) to each other and show our understandings for each other. We sometimes talk. We can have normal and short conversation. It looks like we develop a false friendship but I am not sure. We haven’t applied the 30 days no contact rules yet.
I want him back and want to keep him forever! I am not acting needy and he “like” my posts everyday and he knows I have great time with my girlfriends. If I don’t talk to him within two days, he will text me.
In my situation, should I just keep talking to him like a friend or should I apply no contact rules? Please help me! Thank you!
Definitely ease back on the contact if you dont want to do full on no contact. Hes learning to live with you as a friend and it makes moving on easier. Thats why they say no contact. Because you suddenly disappear.
Its great that you are talking about your feelings and what happened. But you both need to have the space to grow or yea. You will have the same problems.
My ex and i have been apart for 9 months and i did a long no contact. We are talking more frequently now and we are both seeing other people. But, you dont know what you have had til its gone. They say you need to go out with other people. Casually or not. My ex freaked when he found out I was seeing someone. And initiated convo and reminised.
The idea is that you learn to be your happy self without him and if he comes back due to strategic talking then you will work out.
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