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you never know how he’s feeling though. he could be upset himself, too upset to contacts you because of what he’s done. he could be thinking over things and his actions. you never know. giving both yourself and him some time seems like a good idea
Well, he is not THAT sad. He is aways busy talking to girls (which I hate the most) at night.
If you wanna know more , you can check my other threads too. I feel like that the fights we used to have caused so much frustration in him and thats why he is not contacting me. I m sure he loves me but doesn’t wants to be with me right now.
He said he was happy in a wqy when we were apart for a month because he didnt have to fight for 14-15 hours a day.!!!!Day 5 of second round of NC:-
I woke up at 3 in the afternoon. He is not in town today. I ll hit the gym and salon. Didn’t receive any msg from him.
I have been stalking him on an app. I have heard that some girls are trying to get closer to him. Anyways his friend told me he is not dating anyone. Just passes his time by talking to them and he never initiates contact with them.
Anyways, I hope getting a text from him today.
He is out with his family visiting some relatives.Please try to concentrate on yourself think about the bad things he did to you and that even if you guys get back it might not be the same. Try the NC for more 30 days.
Oh and stop stalking him. Think about your future and something that helps me a lot is to repeat out loud that you are in a miserable situation and he is the one that caused this and no matter how beautiful the relationship was, if he got you in your miserable version he is not worth it. Respect is gone. He is the one who should beg for your love back. Don’t let him break your expectations.
Thanks for encouraging me 🙂
I know I have to focus on myself but I cant stop thinking about him.
And yes, I ll get back with him only when he begs me to.
I dont want to be his doormat.Exactly, don’t be his doormat. You deserve better than that. Work on yourself and your self esteem…Try to get to a point where you are fine without him and you accept the breakup. Follow the steps…
It’s hard to not think about them, I think about him constantly, but try to focus on other things to distract yourself.
Don’t take less than you deserve.i know how hard it is to forget someone cause everything you do and think reminds of him but that’s completely normal just don’t let your mind trick you. Make a plan, put up notes on your room reminding the best stuff and gone were you when you guys didn’t have anything. Look at yourself in the mirror and appreciate the things you know no one else has and think that the one who makes yourself happy is only you! You have a whole future ahead of you, and it’s hard to believe but just think about this really cute guy that is crazy for you and say you are pretty everyday. Just picture how this is possible and you won’t get hurt by mean stuff and lack of respect(: he screwed up, not you. Another thing to help you forget him is studying and working, watch a funny movie that doesn’t have to do with love or maybe a thriller. Set goals to accomplish during the NC. Like not stalking him, and reward yourself with something like, I won’t stalk him for 20 days and then if you accomplish it you give it a quick look at his fb, Twitter or whatever. And then start out again. Just assume control of yourself. You are strong enough to do it
Divjun,
I think you have to be patient here. He told you that he still loves you, and that he can’t live without you. Just wait a little bit for the water to clear out.
Mike- cerati
@travelbug , @laurais and @mike
Thanks for your response 🙂
Yes, I will try to focus on myself and I will tty not to stalk him more.
Btw he deactivated his fb account last week and doesn’t use anyother social site.
He uses just an app to talk. I have deleted that app so that he couldn’t contact me there.Day 7 of nc (second round) just started.
Again he didnt try to contact me.
I spent my day with family and slept like a baby.
I don’t know why but I always check my phone expecting his call/msg.
*sigh*
I hope he contacts soon:)Don’t wait for it. You are going to drive yourself crazy. Get busy, do something new, concentrate your time and energy on something positive for yourself. Take this time to better yourself.
Divjun,
I know what you’re going through, and I am learning that we have to learn not to expect anything from them. We can try to make ourselves better human beings, and learn from our mistakes. And if they truly give us another chance, we have to take it seriously, and recognize the bad behaviors and put them in the thrash. That’s only if they truly want to give it another chance. And i deeply wish this is your case!
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