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Just don’t understand why. She still has pictures of me, I’m still tagged in them and the pics I have she is tagged and still there. Maybe I’m assuming wrong?
Would a ‘life event’ automatically delete if the other person untagged themselves? I don’t know how it works really. I know if you untag yourself from a photo, the photo still remains. Very weird.
I am debating whether to unfriend, I just can’t do it right now. I know you’re right Seth but for me it will be like the final nail in the coffin.Gamecoder.nz thanks it horrible. Life a huge rush of anxiety.
I so wish I didn’t my give a damn but emotions and feelings are so strong!She did it because she doesn’t want the reminder and is trying to move on with her life. I know that is something that you don’t want to hear. It fills me with dread, picturing her with another guy but it can be a good thing because it will make her realize what she is missing.
Since she is a strong user of social media then I too would advise that you unfriend her. It would feel like the final nail in the coffin but it would be a hard reset for you on social media.
I feel strong emotions too. It is a good thing and it is OK to feel those as it means that you still care. The important thing is to stay in control of those. That will impress her.
I am not convinced she had anything to do with this life event changing. But I am not familiar with that either. The pictures with you are still up.
Unfriending her will NOT be the final nail in the coffin. It will help you, because it will make you look like you are moving on and that is going to trigger her anxiety. The fact that you are keeping her on the friend list actually could be similar to being Just friends. You are helping her move on and still in a way acting as her safety net. You don’t want to do that.
It will make you stronger too. The reason you don’t want to do it is because you are addicted to watching her page and you know when you unfriend her you won’t be able to do that anymore if her page is showing to friends only. Addiction is not good. End it. It will make you look good to your ex. She could very well be thinking it’s pathetic that you haven’t already unfriended her.
I could be wrong, but I think there is a good chance she is going to reach out to you soon after she notices that you unfriended her.
Just a quick update.
After the above I decided to come off social media for a while and just concerate on ‘life’ I temporarily deleted my Facebook until middle of last week when I felt I was back to being myself again. I haven’t carrying on and to be honest not really giving too much thought into any of it just carrying on.
Then the other day I drove past my ex. It was the first time I had seen her since we broke up. She knew it was me and as I drove past I waved but she completely blanked me and looked ahead as if not to see me. I know she did. Then later on I was at the shop and saw her walking towards it. I wanted to say hi to her so hovered for a bit whilst doing my shopping. Typically as soon as I had my back turned she had been and gone within a flash! Again she knew I was there but chose to ignore me and quickly get in and out. I felt a bit gutted about it, but I understood she may of felt awkward saying hello. She is of the shy type. Anyway I left it and carried on my day.
Later that evening I received a message from her! She asked how I was and said she did see me in the shop but I was facing the other way. I repiee back to her reeling he rot was ok. Would of been good to say hi but it’s nice to hear from her. We have been messaging back and forth for a while BUT is just doesn’t feel right. She answering but not asking me any questions, and I’m trying to be upbeat and cheery and she seems to be keeping it down beat and low key. It doesn’t feel a conversation where she is actually interested in talking to. If that makes sense. I have a feeling it will just fade off. I’m not going to tell her how I still feel about her…I told her that last time, so she knows.Well she’s talking/ seeing another guy. Took a bad turn again and went down hill. She was messaging me until this new guy ‘liked’ a selfie of her then boom she disappeared and hasn’t been in touch since. To say I’m gutted is an understatement. Since then she’s been posting lots of pics and it’s so obvious she’s trying to get his attention.
I’m keeping quiet now, I’m trying to keep busy but the thought of them keeps popping up. It’s horrible. I also feel angry because I’m here still loving her and hurting and she just seems to not care one bit and moved on so easily.That is terrible. Everyone on here knows your pain. A lot of us are left wondering how they can move on so quickly and leave us behind.
This is not something that you will want to hear but you need to cut her out of your life completely. Remove her number, remove her as a friend from all social media, don’t try and contact her at all. This is what you need to do for yourself and I’m sure everyone on here agrees.
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