zackvr

Hi Divjun,

Thanks for your kind words of support, I really appreciate it! I’m very sorry to hear about your breakup, my heart definitely goes out to you.

She has not tried to contact me, but I’m not terribly surprised by this. She had built up a lot of resentment toward me over the years, so when she broke up with me she was really done. I can also see why she might be skeptical that I have really changed, given all the time we spent together and what a jerk I was.

I think this is my biggest challenge, showing her that I have changed. Its easy to say, but much harder to demonstrate. My hope is that we can at least reconnect as friends and she has a chance to see the changes I’ve made and be open to a new relationship. The changes are very clear to me, and even my friends and family, but she has not had a chance to see them.

I’m hoping that a friendly email will spark her interest and can show her some of the changes. My biggest fear is that she won’t give me this opportunity, and feeling that there is nothing I can do about it to convince her.

I really hope your ex takes the time to do some self-improvement. It will be much better for him in the long run. My deepest regret is not making these changes sooner. Its challenging though, people can be stubborn and think they are right or have nothing to change. I know I was that way. I was very arrogant and selfish.

One of the hardest thing for me has been to forgive myself, and accept the reality of the current circumstances. The benefit I’ve found in doing this though is that I feel I have a new space of possibility in my life, and the potential opportunity for a new beginning with my ex. Even though I might have thought I was, I was not in this space a couple months ago, so I can feel how the all work I’ve done has really helped. Regardless of the outcome I know that I’m a better person now, and can hopefully be of benefit to others.

If I can do anything to help at all, let me know.

Best,
Zack