Wesu

Wow, our situations are so similar. When I broke up with her, I told her we both need to think about the things that are really important to us. For her, it was marriage and kids. I really do want to marry her, but she was putting so much pressure on it, and I because I was doing poorly in my classes, I thought that I wouldn’t be able to get married soon. I have been no contact with her for the most part. I asked to her to see a movie last week, but she said she was already seeing it with her friend. Other than that, we haven’t talked, and she has moved on, and I’m pretty sure she’s dating. I was on Tinder, and I saw her on there. It fucking killed me man… her profile said she is looking for her soulmate on Tinder… I thought that was me >.<

Yeah, it’s tough. Like they say, “If you chase a dog, it will run away”. You should let her know that you want to work on things, and if she changes her mind, to let you know. THEN, initiate no contact. Let her know where you’re at, then give her the space to make her own choice. That’s what I’m doing. I don’t have much hope for us, but it’s not my choice to make, so I will give her space, and time. You’re not alone friend. I feel your pain.

I always loved her, but I felt like I didn’t want to be with her. After I finished school, I felt a great relief, like I could breathe again. It was at this time that I started to think about her more, and getting back with her.