Forum Replies Created
-
Posts
-
Okay so I just saw a picture on Facebook of her in a club with some guy and it looks like they just kissed, his face is touching hers and her arm is around his neck and everything.. I feel furious and sick to my stomach.. I mean I knew this was going to eventually happen but it hasn’t even been 3 weeks since we broke up and when you see it in front of you.. ugh. The picture is taken at a party, that happened (4 days) BEFORE she contacted me on fb.
She told me about this party when we had that brief talk sunday and told me there was an annoying guy who she just gave her number so he would leave but by the looks of it, she is really enjoying herself on the picture, no idea if it’s the same guy, but still I feel betrayed.
So what should I do? I felt I was ready to tell her that’s it’s fine that we could talk occasionally but right now I just want to tell her how fucking much this hurts and stay the hell away from me and block her on everything…
Thanks for your reaction tighem.
It won’t upset me, but I’m worried that if we talk occasionally she will get all in my head again and I start to clinge to the hope that we will get back together and I don’t think that’s too healthy for me. But yeah.. she definitely hasn’t healed right now, she told me she isn’t really sure how she feels now etc.
But I did really enjoyed the short talk, so did she and I feel that if we occasionally keep in touch, I can try to focus on my life and we can just see what comes of it and if I feel it’s killing me I’ll just tell her and then we proceed with complete NC.
But yeah.. I’ll give it some more time before I’m making this decision.
Hey everybody.
Something interesting has happened today, she sent me a message on facebook asking me how I am and she told me she doesn’t really know if she feels better this way. We had a brief talk after which I mentioned that I liked to talk to her again but if she’s not ready for commitment that I respect that but that I want her to respect my wish for no contact because otherwise I can’t move on (I definitely can’t be friends while still having feelings).
She said she completely understands this but still asked if she’s allowed to occasionally ask how I’m doing and we can have a little talk like this. I told her I’d think about it because I really don’t know right now. I want to see if my mood and thoughts in the next few days are heavily affected by this talk or not before I make this decision.
I’m wondering what your perspective is on this development.. I want to be into a relationship with her again, but only if she’s fixed her own issues and not just because she misses me (because clearly she still cares) because I’m afraid then this will happen again in the future.
On the one hand I feel like I’m being really hard on her if I tell her not to contact me at all, but I think it’s better for my own processing now as well as hers because she then can have more time to fix her own issues etc. But then again maybe she will eventually get over me if I forbid her to contact me occasionally? Ugh, please someone share your thoughts about this
YBSM really said all there is to be said to this point.
She probably has her own issues to being alone and tries to fill the gap with rebounds, which most likely won’t last long.
Now you can’t do anything about that and have to decide what you want to do now.1. For now, work on yourself (you also seem pretty dependent on her) and try to get her out of your head because she seems pretty crazy in my opinion, in this NC time of a few months work out for yourself if you really want this girl back
2. Drown yourself in sadness and wait like a dog to the day she may be go back to you.If you haven’t already you should read this
https://exbackpermanently.com/is-your-ex-in-a-rebound-relationship/Thank you for your reaction. I’m going to give her time and continue the NC for now while I work on being happy myself.
However I’m concerned if (and when) I should initiate contact. Should I send her a short happy birthday text without asking or saying anything personal (6 weeks from now) and just see if and how she replies?
