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Hey thanks for the advice roarimabear.
Currently it has been almost 3 months since the breakup. Kid’ you not, i am still thinking about him all the time. Same time i am trying to accept the fact that it is already over for us, it just pops in my mind wondering how happy he is now doing the things he like and my friends said he is living happily and doing his hobby so good it turns out to be a side business now.
I am trying so hard do heal by doing things i like, get close to more of my family and friends but i would just somehow became silent once a while and the thought would just race back and then i go depressed thinking again.
Then, i’ve actually tried to ask my friend to arrange a meetup between us but he wouldn’t agree to meet and said he is fat and happy now. Added he has a new person in life and told my friend to pass this info to me.
I’ve lost hope in getting him back. He seems to be further away as much as i wana meet him. There’s no getting better in my NC this 3 months.
Anyone here sees an opportunity between us, still?
Hey thanks for dropping by, appreciate it.
For some reasons, the same time my friends wanted to help me move on but also told me that he seems superbly happy and fine in his facebook posts. He seems to be enjoying so many things. At one point i just told my friends to stop seeding me those info so that i can focus on myself to heal and most importanly moving on even if it takes to just be an act momentarily.I just can’t figure out why and what is he thinking that in our 6 years of relationship is just so easy for him to move on. He might have lost attraction, but its 6 years of memories… Oh dear… :(((
Hi, i personally think your advice is legit. I just broke up a month ago and deep down of me i am still seeing a light of hope after reading a number of sites here about NC rule which i am still wondering the duration plus the terms when we were togeher is it still on the high percentage of getting back. I’ve tried your calculation but doesn’t seem like a good number but i do have a good feeling about us when we were still together, it is the first love memories i can see it is beautiful putting aside the arguements.
My NC up until now, i am still battling within me to many different thoughts everyday. Everyday is different; some are thoughts of remembering the dislikes about him how he ignores me infront of our friends; sometimes i misses talking and laughing with him; sometimes i misses having him during the weekend for sex or a day trip out of town enjoying the beach together; sometimes i misses him driving me out to parties; sometimes it reminds me of how good he can cook. Those are my strong feelings towards him and that made me struggled to rebuild my own.
Now and then when i wake up i will also have thoughts of ‘does he misses me as much as i do now’ or ‘he seems easy to move on and forget about me because he looks happy in his facebook’ told by my friends.
I have friends who told me he is not worth waiting for NC because of his abusive character during his boiling points (slaps me and threatens for breakup on every small issues). Some said he is just having me to make time pass when he is jobless as he needs support, now that he is earning more than i do he seems to be travelling a lot of places with friends; when we were together he would say going vacation is a waste of money. He has always said he wants to spend more time on his gardening and that i felt he second me in terms of time spent.
What can you guys see at my situation? I understands i was being abused, and if most people here thinks i clearly need to move on because of this, i am trying so hard right now. Is there even a chance for me to have him back in my life? Need your sincere advice guys.
