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Well, the first couple days for me were absolute devastation. I tried to beg and plead her to take me back. I cried every hour, woke up every hour in the night thinking of her, and literally could not eat anything. Now, 9 days later I’m still struggling. I cry every day still, have trouble eating properly, and still struggle sleeping. But, I’ve definitely improved mentally. I’ve accepted that this is probably the right thing to happen for us and for me. I’m looking forward to improving as a person and to meeting new people and developing deeper relationships with my friends. And if we end up together, then that’s amazing! If not, by then I will have accepted that that could be a possible outcome. I still miss everything about her, but if she is not wiling to love me back the way I love her, then I deserve better. It’s all about making your life better after this horrible, horrible thing.
Yes good idea blocking her on everything social media. It keeps you from being tempted to check her page and see what she is doing.
It’s not right of her to blame everything on you. In a breakup, both individuals have faults that created the separation. I know it feels like it’s all your fault because you were the one that was dumped (as was I) but you have to know that they also were to blame for the breakup.
As far as the Indian/American thing goes I think you can throw that out of consideration. If that’s really a factor she considers, then that’s not worth your time. You’re just over thinking!
And, I was neglecting my girlfriend towards the end, too. She wasn’t getting the attention she wanted from me, which I think is kind of normal after 5 years. I just wish she would have told me that I need to work harder at making her my top priority.
I thought we were just going on like a two week break, too. And then it turned into a full breakup and I was devastated. She told me she had seen another guy and even kissed him. Which was really hard, because I was her first boyfriend, first kiss, first everything. And I felt like it was all forgotten about when she did that. I know this shit hurts bad. I’m still looking for advice on here, too. But it helps talking with someone who is going through the same stuff right now too. Things will get better they already have for me and they will for you too. Just gotta try not to text or call her or think of her with another guy (I know it’s really hard). But they haven’t forgotten about us, they’re just acting out and trying to fill the hole we left.
Hey, it seems like you all are much further along the process than I am and you all are doing well. So, first off did any of you have trouble eating after your breakup? And for how long? Because it’s been 9 days since the breakup, but I still can’t eat more than 500-700 calories a day and my body is running out of energy. If any of you did go through this, do you have any ideas for what to eat? Because nothing sounds appetizing.
Hey man, chances are yeah that other guy is a rebound. And secondly, she will probably reach out to you during that NC period if you’re saying she is needy. Whether you respond or not is your choice, I wouldn’t though it really complicates things.
As far as her forgetting you, no she won’t. I know I fucked up in my relationship of 5 years and I feel like all that she will think back on is the negative memories and therefore I will have no shot at getting her back. Initially, it may be true that they are focusing on the negatives. But, with time they will also remember all the positives that you had together and that’s when she will probably try to contact you. Stay strong, and read my posts if you wanna help a guy out.
Damn @chrisloveschris reading your optimistic post gives me some hope things will get better haha
MrCat,
Do not break NC at this point. I just did, and nothing changed and I feel like I’m back to square one. Nothing we say will change our ex’s mind right now. I was with her for 5 years and she broke up with me about a week ago. Delete her off Facebook and twitter and all that. Seeing her face makes it hard, I know it does for me at least.
