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Is there anyone that has been in a similar situation? I just don’t really have faith in NC and that it will work, and i guess i want to hear some kind of reassurance that it will.
Hey Michael,
I think the best thing for you to do is to stick to the NC. During this time you should have fun and you should work on yourself. The changes you are talking about you should definitely work on during this month. Once you guys meet up again i’m sure that she will see the changes in you, and see that you are still working improving yourself. If these problems were a big part of why you fought a lot, then you know what needs to be changed. Just show her that you can change and that you are working on it. Good luck to you, i hope it works out!
Another question though. I’m moving out by the end of the month and as i’ve started packing i’ve found some of her stuff. I also collected some things she left behind that we bought together, but i don’t want to keep them because they remind me of her. So i put all the things in a bag. Should i tell her that she should pick them up, or should i just have a friend give it to her? I feel that having someone give it to her might surprise her more and “hurt” her?
Wow. well good luck to you. But you seem to be in control of the situation and know what to do, so that’s a big plus!
Okey, so you’re planning on reaching out to her really soon. How is it that you seem so calm and collected? I figured that the people who would give advice would be the ones that already went through this process and came out on the other side, successfully. But i really hope it will work out for you! What happened in you’re relationship?
Today i’m on day 17 and i haven’t seen a single sign that she’s even thinking of me. A mutual friend of ours is seeing her tonight, and she doesn’t know that me and the friend started hanging out again. So i’m curious to hear what she will find out.
Yeah, i get what you’re talking about. I definitely wouldn’t “overdo” it. I guess my biggest problem and issue is the fact that she “moved on” so fast with someone else and she is now saying they are in a relationship. I kinda want to shake things up for her, because she’s pretty used to always knowing where she has me.
If i wont hear anything from her by when the NC period is over that means that i’m gonna be the one reaching out to her. The thought of it sucks, mainly for my ego. Is this normal? how was it for you? what do you do?!
Thank you for replying. 🙂
I thought that during NC i should’n answer calls/texts? Like i said, she hasn’t tried to contact me since she moved out but i just want do be sure not to mess up if she would reach out.
Another thing. In a month from now an old fling is coming to visit me from abroad. She knows who he is, and she knows that he lives abroad. (so he is traveling far to get here) I was thinking that i would post pictures once he’s here, hoping that that will trigger emotions. Is this smart or not? I just really feel like i don’t mean anything to her and neither did our relationship, at least that’s how she’s acting. I want it to hit her really hard, that she messed up and is about to loose me. What do you think?
