Merchaunt

I dont want this love to go away I have been there in fact overseas and I messed up and alone but I keep going on I have a long story to tell but you need help and I want to help you can contact me at [removed]

-Time goes forward never backwards. The clock is ticking.

Guys and gals. I have been reading on what is going on in your lives and what is going on with your past relationships and I know. Many of you believe that you love the person but that is why the 30 days no contact is for. Its not just for you to improve but to really know, do I really love him or her. I have helped people to the point they cannot eat they could not sleep for days and when they try they feel like they will vomit on the thought of the person that left you or whom you left I have seen it hundreds of times. I am not joking HUNDREDS. I was there too. Things get better but only if you want it to get better.

First off if you are below the age of 21 or younger most the time, it was just a simple romance not a person you wanted to begin with. But eventually you will know it was not just a friendship nor romance you had with the person. It was trying to build a future with them. Making a home and a new place to go. For now if you want things to go great on the no contact you will understand how little friends we have. Many say oh well just move on, plenty of fish in the sea, was meant to be is what’s ment to be which I think is really stupid.

Sometimes you have to have a real believe. Dream and vision on what you want in your lives. People on here who go through this give terrible advise thinking because they are suffering and no one is really helping them is a really good idea to tell things that oh its ok to just tell them the bitterness and anger they have themselves like screw them and forget the.

I hear it all the time that if they really loved you they would not break up with you that is not one bit true. I know it first hand first off its not just attraction they lost from you but also a form of dependency they had and dependency you have on them taking care of you. They want a home too but they felt like you were not there what so ever and took for granted when you have them it happens to the best of us. They broke up not because they do not love you but also they built up a defense mechanism. On top of that your so called “friends” make things worse saying what I said in the middle of what I typed. I can be there for you and help you but for now you can make it but its up to you. I also know people who can guide you to where you need to go but from a phrase I heard is, “I can show you the door but you are the one who has to walk through it.”

Whoever on here really needs help First Email me what is going on the entire story and what you are going through. Then the reason why they left you and last if you really feel deep down in your bones if you love the person. Some people are just as arrogant and stubborn like people who are going through divorces. “Well man I am almost done with the 30 days and I think I can do it on my own.” Next thing you know I hear oh please help me I need help so much I said ok I can and will talk to you and be a good friend and they go back doing the same thing having the same result and it gets very old.

Everyone knows the definition of insanity but no one really understands it when they experienced it.

Here is my e-mail first tell me what I asked above and if you really want to succeed ignore the stupid comments and ignore the ridiculous sayings all these people say.

I will help you if your ready and help you to learn to help yourself and never abandon you like many. But first lets figure out if this relationship matters. Also if you cannot eat well soups are a great alternative.

I am here for you.

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I am here for everyone if you need me. [email protected]

I have shown you the way but to change is difficult. You must unlearned what you have known. I am not going to be here forever. I can only show you the door but you must be the one to walk through it. For now to really make a difference is in yourself. No other. You must believe in the impossible. I tell you over and over and over again. Still you are afraid but the training goes out of your mind.

I will leave you all with this.

@Chrisloveschris it will happen to you too. Just wait. I got your back

One of the things I read from a great book called Sun Tzu Art of war. One of the most difficult things for a general is to turn a very bad situation into your favor. The fog, might be bad for your state of mind thinking of things that could be. Should have been and may never be. Right now write down that joke. Write how you feel about the situation. When the 30 days is over which will pass fast. Let him know in the letter. Remember the old bad relationship is very dead. The good new one with him is coming soon but you have to make it. Keep that in a journal. Regardless of how he reacts if he really loves you it will break him inside even though he seems tough.

Do not give up and the pain is going away because you went from hopelessness to determination very soon. It is a transformation. Many people who are old and by themselves at the bar are filled with despair mainly because they keep thinking I should have said this, done this, tried this. But they did not. Do not be there. You have a choice to make it. Its not about moving on its about making yourself stronger in this adventure we call life. So for now relax. You can do it. Take a walk. Write. Learn. But most important DREAM. Dream what you want to happen. How it can happen. What you must do to make it happen. Keep dreaming day dreaming. If you really want it its right there in front of you. All you have to do is lift your hand and take it.

For now just fix the problem. First you must understand what the problem is. Really figure out the problem. For now forget about the relationship. I mean it as in put it to the side and write on the piece of paper why she will not meet me. Then find out ways on how to get her to. Really look back on you, not her and say what did I do and how to fix it. Then when you meet her be very formal and professional. Have a nice toy or token that belongs to you and at the end of the conversation give it to her and say this is for you. Do not explain the reason just do it and if she dosent want it lay it on a table and say well then someone will take it. Then wait. That is a hunter’s technique called giving a rabbit a chase. Its very difficult to catch it. However, if you chase it to the trap on the other side it will go there and SNATCH.