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Thank you @heartbreakkid15 for your advice. I also forgot to mention that I did NC for a month and it’s been 3 months since I’ve started connecting with him again. So that’s 4 months already. But since yes, the break up is still fresh (in my case) and he is still in a relationship, I guess I must not rush and give him space, even when he doesn’t ask for it.
Thank you for the positive reinforcement 🙂 I just found out yet another challenge to all this, which is extremely difficult to get around. I found out that he has another girlfriend a month after his breakup with me! Your advice will be great:
Any advice for finding out that ex has a rebound relationship?
Yes, that’s why keeping up with NC rule is important. One step at a time. We’ll realize that what we once had was not all rainbows and butterflies. After NC, we’ll have the strength to accept the things that happened, and to be rational on what we should do next. But! It pays that you feel these things on your own, at your own pace. If others are telling you what to think and feel, I think it’s much more confusing and hard.
People around me have been telling me to move on as well. There are many, many fish in the sea. All those things.
I’ve been 42 days after the break up, 21 days since NC period. Those 21 days have been difficult at first from all the break up pain and bad memories pain. But when the days rolled by, I thought I really would get over and move on. There are guys here and there. But I never really wanted to make an effort to date them. I guess there really is something in me that says, “You’ve already found ‘the one’. That’s enough.” I don’t want to invest my emotions on someone else. Whatever I had with my ex, that was enough. It was blessed. He’s gone, but if I try again, and do it right, plan it well, then I’d at least get him to talk to me like he used to.
But if I let people tell me what to do and what to feel, then that will ruin my plan. So don’t fall into that trap, okay guys? I have this stinking feeling that the reason my ex broke up with me was because he let all the advice from his friends seep into him (because we were at a rocky, complicated time).
We’ve got a lot of work to do. So let’s play our cards right, try to keep NC going. I can’t believe I got 9 days to go until I think about my next step. 🙂
