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@shesjustmaria – thank you for your reply. It’s been 2 weeks since I had last contact with her, But broke up a month ago. I doesn’t mean after we broke up I was begging her to come back but I texted her twice to talk, a couple of days after breaking up and then the second weeek I waited for her by her car outside of school but she refused to talk as well she said it was too soon and she doesn’t know if she still wants me in her life or if she’ll ever talk to me again. Then I initiated no contact. So she’s 20(will turn 21 in June) and I’m 23(turned 23 in January). We go to different schools but next semester she’ll be transferring to my school. I was helping her out with all her application papers and everything. It was very weird how it all happened, considering the good relationship we had and she was still considering me, in front of her friends, in future travel plans we had this year(with her friends and just us alone) even on the same day she broke up with me. I think she took a decision based on how she was feeling at the moment. That night she broke up with me, she wasn’t even at home thinking about her decision she was out with her friends, so I don’t know if she really thought about her decision. You can read the previous posts to get more details about the break up. It’s just very stressful to think that she doesn’t miss me at all, but again I don’t know if that’s true. I really want to do something to get her back but at this point I don’t know if it’ll work, or it might just get her more upset. But literally the relationship we had, was the relationship she always wanted, so I don’t know why her feelings towards me went away after 2-3 weeks of bad terms.
@shesjustmaria – It’s been a month since my ex broke up with me and still haven’t heard from her, i initiated no contact 2 weeks ago, which was last time I saw her and tried to talk to her but she refused. Like I said before we had a really good relationship, and she said the spark fell off during 2-3 weeks we were on bad terms so she decided to break up with me on a random afternoon where we were supposed to hang out but we didn’t because she had a lot of homework, so it’s not like she planned on breaking up with me that day, it just happened based on the conversation we were having. I don’t know if she still misses me or has already moved on. I wanna know that way I can set my mind to something instead of being here thinking there’s a small hope that we’ll get back together based on the beautiful relationship we had.
I’ve heard that my ex has been going out a lot and having fun with her friends, does it mean she moved on from me already? Does she not miss me at all? She broke up with me 3 weeks ago and we dated for 2.5 years, i don’t know how you can move on from someone that fast, especially when we had a beautiful relationship and ups and downs like any other couple.
@patricia12 – oh also she broke up with me 3 weeks ago, should I start 30 days no contact today? Or should I start counting since last time I seen her? I really hope she reached out during this no contact period
@patricia12 – thank you so much for all the advice. What do you mean she might not contact me due to respect for my wishes?
I’ve heard of the honeymoon phase and I felt like we got past that phase already. But both of us always tried to keep the spark up that’s why we went on trip or had little get aways as well as small dinner dates(which were most of the time considering we didn’t have much time to do anything this semester due to our school and work schedules). I always worried about getting too comfortable in the relationship because I felt like that would make both of us lose interest or feelings for each other and I guess that’s what happened(well from her part). I really hope we can fix things, and that she realizes that those 2.5 years we spent together were meaningful for her and for me. And this time that we’re apart is just a break that she needed from the relationship.@patricia12 – also like I said before, we been thru worse arguments in the past but never got to this point and those were situations where I thought we could’ve really broken up, but no both of us always showed we wanted to be with each other no matter what. We didn’t have arguments very often, not at all, the relationship was a very stable one. Just like any other couple we had our ups and downs, nothing out of the ordinary, but we always showed we wanted to be with each other, that’s how committed we both were to the relationship. But I don’t know why this one was the definitive one that broke us up. I started to think maybe she got overwhelmed with school, like I said this all started after both of us started school. She started to open for work at 6am-2pm some days and be In class from 3-10pm, other days she would close instead but would have class before work. Maybe she got overwhelmed with everything, and didn’t want to deal with having to fix or deal with a relationship at this moment.
@patricia12 – when I asked her when did she start to stop having feelings for me, she said it was during those 2 weeks we were on bad terms. Like I said, we had just gotten back from a Seattle trip 3 weeks before the bad term time, and we spent an awesome time on my birthday. She said it all started when we were on bad terms. I did accepted the fact that she didn’t want to hang out but it continued for 2-3 weeks and she didn’t show any initiative of wanting to do anything. So I confronted her about the way she was acting and she said she was drifting away from me, that it wasn’t my fault but it was hers because she wasn’t putting the effort to fix or try to keep up the relationship we had. So we decided to work things out as a couple, which we did perfectly for 2 weeks, everything was great up until a weekend when I asked her about how does she think things were going, and as we got more deep into it, she started to say or throw words that it’ll be better if we’re not together. For someone to lose feelings for another person in 2 weeks is very hard to believe especially after 2.5 years, and especially from her. She said that that spark fell off, and when we were working things out she didn’t consider that we still had limited time to hang out or do stuff together but our conversations were very lovely. During this period we actually did hang out more times than those 2-3 weeks we were on bad terms and we even had sex which I thought things were going the right direction. She was always committed to the relationship 100%, she never did anything to ruin it and she would’ve never done it either because she cares a lot about her image and how she would look in front of her family and friends if she messed something up. I’m starting no contact, but do you think I should reach out to her in 30 days or wait for her to reach out to me?
Hello, by bad terms I mean we just weren’t sweet talking as we usually did due to we had a disagreement on hanging out. I wanted to hang out during the little free time that we had but she didn’t want to do anything. We were talking coldly for two weeks basically. And when I decided to fix things she said she felt like she was drifting away from me. But in 2 weeks, it’s very hard to believe. We had a beautiful relationship, barely any arguments but if we did, they were very stupid but nothing to the point of yelling at each other or anything of that level. And from this time that I’ve known her, she wouldn’t have done anything to ruin the relationship, that’s why it’s hard to think that she ended things this way, saying that she didn’t feel anything for me anymore. I really want to get her back, and I believe there’s a chance to get her back but I feel like the longer I wait, the faster she’ll stop having feelings for me.
