katybringhurst

Im in almost the exact same situation. I was with my first love for almost 4 years and we went to college together, shared everything together. We had a terrible last couple months of our relationship, we both took advantage of eachother. I broke up with him at the end of April and I immediately regretted it. He slept with someone else a few weeks after we broke up and told me he thought we should see other people. We hooked up a few times and tried to hang out one on one, but it would turn into fights. I also crossed a boundary, kissed his best friend while drunk, and ever since then, he’s seen me in a completely, negative light. I met up for coffee with him 2 weeks ago and we left on fine terms, but not great. I dont think he believes me to be good enough for him. I haven’t heard from him in 2 weeks, but school starts back up in one week and I’ll probably see him at parties. I dont know if I should go places that he’s going to be. I’ve never done NC so we will see how it goes.. but regarding your situation.. I feel like you need to focus on bettering yourself. You need to show this guy that, although he was a huge part of your life for years, you can still be your own individual. Make him crave you again. Become the most desirable version of yourself. After my breakup, if there’s any advice I can give to someone, it’s not to act clingy or desperate… you don’t need anyone except yourself.