Ivan

Thanks for the advice. I would like to give a little update and also ask a few more things now.

A few days ago she texted me because she has some problems with her friends, and eventually called me to talk about it and asked me to accompany her for a while. I was worried something bad would happen if I didn’t pick up because she said she would be crushed if her friends leave her so I picked up.

In the call, we talked about some things and I eventually asked her if she does miss me (which she said she did but not too much) and said that she doesn’t regret breaking up with me.

The next day she’s still dealing with her problem with her friends, and that night we texted and she asked to call me again. This time I said yes but a bit unwillingly. In the end I ended the call in a bit “I don’t want to call you anymore” and we said goodnight. (That’s not how I really felt).

So I have a feeling that now she knows why I don’t want to contact her in a while, but I’m afraid she got the wrong idea of me not wanting to contact her because I’m pissed. In reality,I was just too sad so I said what I mentioned before. My intention is to not contact her for a while to work myself up like the guide in this website told us.

So I’m wondering, should I text her one more time to let her know that it’s not that I don’t want to contact her because I ‘hate’ her, but rather because I just need time? Or should I just continue my NC?

Oh one more question, how will I know that she will actually miss me during and after the NC period,rather than forget about me?

Thanks.