Hopfulgrl

I just ended over 10 weeks of no contact and I thought I was going to die. I prayed and meditated a lot. And I have no idea if my ex and I are going to get back together, but here is what I do know. We met for drinks 2 days ago and he said all he remembers now are the good times. He moved into a new relationship but broke up with her after 3 months b/c he felt NOTHING for her- he just didn’t want to be alone. He said he wrote me countless letters and emails but never sent them because he is convinced we can’t work as a couple. However, he also said he saw positive changes in me. I have never handled a break up the way I did this one (using the 5 steps) and truly it has not only made my ex think about and miss me, but it has had a huge impact on my self esteem. I miss my love but in many ways, I am happier than I have ever been- because that break gave me a chance to work on myself. I am not sure where he and I go from here. He doesn’t want a relationship right now and I am seeing someone that could become serious. But I know that I have his respect and I know that I have changed his impression of me. And I have changed my impression of myself- if he walks away forever, I will be ok. So trust Kevin’s advice- especially the part about becoming a happier more complete version of yourself.
I posted in a new thread that I feel I have blown it with my ex so the only guarantee I can make is that you should make the most of the time you have to yourself. It will bring about happiness and positive changes in your life- either way. And I am sending positive thoughts your way because I get the hurt you are feeling.