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@tami420 thanks, I really hope it is… she was mine and his friend and they had been friends for 6 months or more and only since uni finished in November have they hung out more and he was always telling me what he was doing and if he was with her or other friends and that he crashed on her couch so nothing happened for ages. He just suddenly kissed her and now they are together and she posts photos of them on her fb and instagram which he likes but he has deactivated his fb since we broke up I think because he doesn’t want to deal with people asking what happened.
We were supposed to move to his home country of Ecuador in a few weeks time too.

I have done the no contact for 17 days now, do I just do the nc until they break up?
I have been told she has no money so I don’t know how she can afford to go with him so I hope that will help split them up and when he is back home with friends and family he will soon realise all he has lost with me and how he did love me.
I just worry in case they don’t break up or he still doesn’t want me after.
So frustrating and heartbreaking as we had a great relationship up until 21 days ago then all changed since he kissed her. No warming at all.

Hey everyone I am on day 17 of nc, I actually started this before seeig this website, so had done maybe 11 days or more. I am finding it ok, well hard because we have been in a long distance relationship for 6 months not seeing each other at all because of being in different countries after my visa expired and I came home to save money before we started a life together. He kissed a girl and broke up with me and they have been in a relationship since that day of the kiss which is like 19 days now.
I think its a rebound relationship because there was no gap between me and him breaking up and him starting his relationship with her. She is 7 years younger than him and fairly different to me and no plan for the future and they have both being studying in Australia and will return to their home countries and he is already planning to go to hers for Christmas getting a visa etc, moving fast (another rebound symptom).
I just feel sad about him dating her (she was my friend) and hoping they will break up but not sure when it will happen. Its only 19 days they have been together, he has deactivated his fb, he posts no photo’s of her to his instagram but she has been posting a number of the 2 of them and he ‘likes’ them. He has been distant from his family and not telling them everything but they know about the girl ans they are very angry with him and what he is doing to me. Everyone says this is not him, not his normal behaviour. Think the distance and missing me then uni stress and this girl hanging around has created the situation plus we argued a couple times.
I am thinking we are at the death doors stage and wonder what to do after the 30 days no contact, especially if they are still dating? ????
I have heard she doesn’t have money to go to Ecuador so think it would be hard for there relationship to continue but I still worry and worry in case he still doesn’t want me despite us having a great relationship and him messaging me lovely message’s right up until the night before the break up.

Advice needed from people and Kevin if possible please