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When most men (the good men out there) say something they usually mean it. But the problem I find with being a male is that we are simply creatures of what we know, where as I believe females are creatures of feelings. When I know something, I usually decide on it right then and there. But in the future many things can affect that! Ignoring him for a month will probably drive him crazy if you try it again. If you have enough confidence I’d suggest telling him not to talk to you until you feel comfortable with it. That’d drive me crazy.
Try your best to stop suffering, I know that is much harder said than done but it just involves you to take a leap of faith that making no contact makes a difference. A difference for him and you. 🙂
Oh I didn’t realise she was coming to see you! I missed that as I was typing.
Play it cool, let her see that guy she first met and fell for.
Don’t mention anything about the previous “negative” moments of your relationship, possibly remind of her a funny memory you both have. 🙂I’m in a similar situation to being “friends” with an “ex” and it took me 2 weeks to realise it’s not the best idea without giving them serious space first! I feel that I can give better advice to someone else than myself, I’m on my first day of NC and I already feel sad.
Anyway, stick with it. Improve yourself, let her (in a months time) see how well you’re doing without her.Good luck. 🙂
If anyone wants to post on my issue feel free!I can’t imagine what you’re going through seriously, I’m sorry that you feel like this.
But as a male, if I feel that I no longer what to be with a particular person I’d be doing what he’s doing to you right now, but saying that what drives me as equally crazy is when it looks like that person no longer talks to me. No contact even the second time around can drive a guy crazy, he’ll start double guessing what he’s done, miss those genuinely happy memories with you. It just takes time, but it’s what you do in that time that really helps you out in the future. I don’t think you screwed up, you just realised it’ll take longer than you thought it would!
Keep doing what you’re doing and stick with it. With in a month, maybe even 3 weeks you’ll see what it’s doing to him. 🙂Good luck and all the best.
I’m finding myself in a very similar situation right now buddy!
The best advice I’ve been given is the 30 day no contact rule.
Even though it’s hard (I was “dating” a girl for a month and a half but we were never boyfriend and girlfriend) and the same thing is happening to me. It’s painful to remember how good of a time you spent with someone that was so close to being much more.In those 30 days you need to get the best out of yourself. So when you do finally talk to each other, she sees something even better than before. Good luck. 😀
Feel free to leave a post on my issue, it’s titled something like “any advice will be greatly appreciated!”
When he contacts you about the children, be really cool and polite with him. Make sure the conversation doesn’t extend from that (unless it’s something else that’s important, family, insurance etc)
If you feel tempted to say how you feel, hold it back the best you can.Take a month out from all this and do some stuff for yourself. Stick with it too. 🙂 I hope everything works out for you.
