fredfred

Hi Patricia,

Thanks for taking the time to read my story and reply!

I also thought it would be the best option to get in touch with her again once I get back. There might be a chance that I’ll be over her by then, but that would be fine as well. So thanks for confirming my thoughts.

Something else that I’ve been thinking about. It’s just that I have the feeling that I get mixed signals from her side. Two examples:

She slept at my place 4 nights in a row, and a few days later when we talked about our future, she said she doesn’t love me. It just feels a bit weird, hanging out for 4 consecutive days nonstop at my place, then saying you don’t see a future. I have the feeling that she is suppressing her feelings, or not giving at a fair chance because of the fact that I left the country. Another example:

In our prior break-up of a month, I started dating other girls and I had sex with one of them. It was a one night stand. So a few weeks later, my ex and I got back together, had a great night and had sex as well. The morning after, she asked me if I did anything with other girls in the meantime. I was honest to her and told her I had been dating other women and that I had sex with one of them. She got really mad at me and wouldn’t talk to me for a week, after which she came back to me again. We talked it over and we had a good run for the last month again. But then, in the end, she wouldn’t want to start a long distance relationship. So she does get really mad if I do something else with other women, even when we aren’t officially together, but then doesn’t have strong enough feelings to start a long distance relationship, or even to say to give it another shot when I get back. It just sounds to me that she is confused about her own feelings, or that she is suppressing her own feelings, so she can’t get hurt in the long run. I have the feeling that she prefers to be hurt right, instead of being hurt in the future. Do you agree that this is a big possibility? What do you think of this?

Thanks!

– Fred