DrAchingHeart

Thanks for the reply, I honestly think that 1 month NC no might not be enough anymore to initiate contact. I’m pretty sure she is doing NC herself, but as a way to get over me. Also with them moving in together, she will be having the incredible honeymoon phase of the relationship will probably protect her from any ide in her head of missing me. I think she truly wants to move on, but is just having trouble herself and even those few attempts of mine have been more proof that she should keep quiet.

I maybe forgot to mention that after the breakup she immediately blocked me on every single platform, phone, mail, social media.

At this point, I don’t think there is a way of initiating contact that wouldn’t be considered stalkery, at least from her part.

The new relationship for her has been a rebound, even moving in so fast is out of character for her even though friends of ours do it all the time. She might conisder it to be a new serious thing and go for it completely.

Personally I don’t see any other choice then at the very least for the next few months, live my life, work on making my life as awesome as possible for myself and truly be happy with myself, also post some picture on social media of what I’m doing (none of us here are big social media posters, but I know her friends whoi don’t know well, still check mine time to time), let the negative feelings she clearly still has, pass. And she in’t a bad person, she will at some point wonder how I am doing, but maybe she won’t reach out, just on purpose.

I have done every single thing outlined here, and I am not saying I am giving up, definitely not. But is it possible that her timeline for cooling down and missing me is going so slow but at the meanwhile her rebound has been going so well, there never was an opportune moment?

I can alwasy hope for the rebound to end, which might take a few months still.
I might have to wait until she reaches out out of curiosity, still a few months.
As for me initiating contact, I think I have to wait at least 3 to 6 months before she truly believes it is genuinely neutral and not another attempt.

Unless any of you have some other idea, i think I have to accept that this one long-term with a slim chance or that she really is emotionally fucked up and although it hurts and the rest of her is perfect, I am saving myself from a lot of future pain.