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Hi, I was talking to a few of my friends and they have identified what was the main reason as to why we broke up. They’ve said that I needed to really take ownership and man up in the relationship. They have stated that I couldn’t let her be the stronger and more braver one of the relationship, and that girls want someone who they can find security and assurance in. This was what I have recently learnt, and I will work on those area.. do you think a 30 day no contact is sufficient enough or should I do it shorter/longer? I know that change doesn’t happen in 30 days but I would like to let her have some assurance that I am progressing bit by bit. I would take things slower with her this time given that she’s willing to start over again.
More so of just getting cooped up at home and basically just not doing anything other than watching show eating and sleeping (I’m really ashamed to say this).. I definitely didn’t neglect her that’s for sure. In fact I was so free at the time that she just felt that I was wasting away my time doing the things that I mentioned above.
She just feels that I have no life goals and I wasn’t being the man of the relationship, that I give her empty promises.
There were times where we had those serious talks about our future life together and her bringing the problem across to me.. and I know I’m at fault at this because even though I changed after those talks we had, I would slowly digress back to what I was.
But now after all that happen, I’ve woken up my ideas and started to work on changing those parts of me. I’m just really want her to know that she really is something important to me and that I really had thought about our future together.
sorry I left out some details which you have asked me. My private course is a full time Program, so it really depends if I’m able to cope with my studies, if im able to then I’ll look for a part time job. And I just remember I had another job before the one I quit in December last year, it was not a proper one though as all I did was help give flyers around in hopes to earn a little income. So yea, that’s about it.
Hi sorry, I typed wrongly regarding the day she she broke up with me.. it was last Thursday.
My degree course is only 18months in total as I am pursuing a private degree course.
Of the 6 years, the first 2 I further studied to get a cert after completing my Sec school, upon which after 5 months I was drafted into national service for the next 2 years.
I worked for a little (roughly around 2 months) while after completing my ns before I went to a private Uni to get a diploma(6 months diploma course). It was after the completion of my diploma course that I started to laze around the next few months (I couldn’t remember how Long) before she told me to find a job.
I managed to find one after a few weeks, working for approximately 6 months. I quit the job in the mid of December last year as her family had invited my on a 2 week overseas trip(I also felt I was getting a little under paid hence one of the other reasons why I left the job), I had plans to get back to school to pursue a degree course straight after the trip but my course was only starting end April of this year so during this time for some shitty unknown reason, I went back to my old habit of not looking for a job and started lazing around again. And no she didn’t say to not contact her.
Hi I’m turning 24 this year and she’s a year younger than me. And yes I’m living with my parents. The job is a full time temporary one until I start my degree course (degree in logistics). Do you have any advice for me? Like what do I wait for her to contact me or? I’m really afraid that she might forget about me during this period of time (sorry I’m really really in experience when t comes to things about girls) it’s almost close to a week since we last contacted each other.
I have finally found a job and started working on myself, I’ve started doing more productive things during my free time instead of lazing around and being cooped up at home(I’ve been exercising, went to sign up for my degree course etc), I am nowhere near changed in character and the things she said that I need to work on but I am progressing and learning to be more responsible.
Do you think that there’s a possibility that she will take me back? I know I’m making changes because I want to win her back, but I also realised that’s not only reason I’m doing this, it’s because I also want to change for myself.
