Dimitri

Dear Patricia, thank you for your reply.

Together for about a year. Half a year as a couple, and a few months earlier in a somewhat complicated situation which we managed to overcome and be together properly.

The reasons for the break up are my own conclusions. She never gave any explanation and avoided any discussion (in fact even meetup). I have concluded that it has been mainly a loss in emotional attraction, amongst other things.

I know you mean well so please don’t consider I am offended when I say that a) I’m not a lier and b) not fond of schemes. However, NC in general is a scheme/lie in service, perhaps, of a greater truth! Is it not? So, when you say ‘never lie’, I’m not sure if we’re on the same page. Everyone in NC is pretending, as I see it, to a full or great extend, that they are ok with the break up (the lie part), while at the same time respecting the decision for it (the truth part). Note that the latter is part of a strategy though… so, even if true, it’s not being implemented for the truth of it. In sort, we’re all essentially lying, while in NC. AND, trying our best to be dignified and respectful, while doing so.

Her birthday was in July so I don’t agree that it’s a good idea to send such a belated wish. I take note of your comment about what appears as stalking, and will consider it. Thank you indeed.

I don’t think I’m going to be direct in asking for reconciliation since it goes against recreating attraction (main point of NC).

Thank you again for taking the time.
D.