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The frequency if argunents over 16 years wasnt massive. Sometimes over daft things a couple times more over more important things (finances etc).
I came to realise the other day that over the past few months i hadnt really attended to her needs. Which is where we prob lost the spark.
I did start no contact then but she did contact me yesterday regarding few things i wasnt in the right frame of mind and proceded to talk about the relationship which i know was stupid. She said again that it was over but you never know what will happen in the future. Told me we both need space and to realise that she doesnt have feelings for me just now and if thwy will come back.Nothing major. Yes we had the usual arguments over stupid things but nothing that was really serious. Im hoping she is just confused and realises what we had. But for now it doesnt look good. Ive lost the woman i love and there is nothingbi can do just now because she is set in her ways.
My ex has moved out and back to her parents house and no there are no children involved. What do you mean more to the story? Ask any question I’ll answer honestly that’s why I have put my story out there.
I am 35 she is 32 and yes we were living together for 12 years.
She never gave me any other reason other than she had lost feelings for me and the spark had gone. I get that these things can happen but you would think after so many years together she would be willing to work at it and not throw in the towel.
We had a decent income for the household enough to get us buy and go on our annual holiday. It was a mutual agreement to delay the wedding.
I am just about to start no contact we had a few words tonight about things and I asked her why she said that she doesnt know what the future held. She said we never know what the future can bring it’s just a saying but i told her it was mind games. She then said I need to get my head round things and get used to us not being together. So I now start no contact and see what happens. But thank you for your understanding and messaging back.We had spoken about getting married but finances weren’t great and we were both happy to postpone for the foreseeable future. She has since messaged saying anything can happen in the future but just now she feels nothing. It’s as if she is playing mind games with me. If I thought that she just needed a break I’d give her it but it sounds more serious than that and I’ve lost the best thing that happened to me.
