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Sorry mate. In that case I misunderstood what you were trying to say.
So to sum up you now think I was too hard to get, and that lowered my chances?
Yes I wantus to be together. But being to easy to get havent really worked well for me in the past 🙂@solidturd
You havent read the topic havent you?? 🙂Hi guys.
So just an update from me.
I did like you adviced me to. I contacted her this time, as I havent heard a peep from her since my last update. I know she is very busy as with her exams.Anyways. I had an excuse to contact her. It was business related, as she had been doing business with my new company in the past. So I texted her about that. Didnt quite go as I expected, as she had found a new company to do business with, and they could offer her alot more then I could.
So then there was silent for a few hours.
So I turned the conversation away from the business talk, and over to her and asked her how her exams went.
We texted a lot back and fourth. Some rather long texts from both of us, were we talked about what we were up to and such.
She just had some new model pictures taken and I asked if they were good… She reaplied “you havent seen them” and told me she really liked the result. If I wanted to check them out I could visit her sponsors website, her own fan page on FB or her personal FB.
I checked out her sponsors website, and complimented her on them. (Note: I did not visit her pages, only her sponsors)Throughout the entire conversation I kept in mind that I should be friendly and open with her, but not being to avaible.
I told her that I still havent found a place in her city to live, but tomorrow I was going there to look at an apartment. Note: I kinda hoped she would ask me over again when she heard this. This time I would have accepted the invite. But she didnt invite me.
This time I didnt end the conversation by not replyinng. I just let it fade out on its own like it naturally would when texting with a friend.
Thoughts so far??
Or…..
She could do it to stroke her own ego.
She just got out of her rebound relationship, and needs to feel wanted.
That is my major concern.Very hard indeed. I have never been at this stage myself, so I dont think I would be the right person to answer your question 🙁
No there isnt. This board really needs a PM feature.
Post a link to your topic, and I will take a look when I have time, ok?LC would be you best option if you ask me. But wait for her to start the conversation.
You plan sound good to me. It is ok to be friendly with her, but not more then that. You are not here to give her emotional support, and you are not a backup in case it doesnt work out with this guy.
Keep working on your own life…
A guy that puts his entire life on hold for for a girl = A needy guy = very unattractiveWell, basicly what it says is that she can indeed be in love with both of you. You are just in two different stages of the relationship.
Her and the new guy are in the first phase. The honeymoon phase!
You and her are still in the attachment stage.
She is in love with both, but in different ways.
She gets all the new and all the excitement from him.
And she gets all the security and closeness from you. Untill the day the new guy can take over 100% or they split….She clearly still have feelings for you, but she sounds confused.
Did you read the article I posted about being split between two persons?Sorry to hear that mate, but I hope you understand now why I say that any talks about the past, and the break up is absolutely No Go!
She might be the one that brings up the topic, even though she hates it. It makes her feel guilty and like a terrible human being.
Let her be for awhile. She will come to you again when she is ready. Maybe in a day or two, maybe a month, maybe 6 months.
Let her recover.When she does come back, keep the conversation light and happy. And she might bring up this conversation again, but you have to brush it off like it doesnt matter. This may even be the reason why she brings it up. She wants you to tell her that it doesnt matter, and that she shouldnt feel guilty. She wants to know that you are no longer hurting, and shouldnt feel bad about approaching you…
Read this my friend:
http://www.relationshiptalk.net/psychology-and-the-rebound-relationship-339.htmlIt might give a better understanding of what is going kn whith your ex right now
Yeah, there are still a little negative memories there. Let her contact you… There is no harm in being in contact with her, as long as she starts it and as long as you do t invest more in the conversation then she does. And ofcause it is your job to keep the conversation on a possitive topic.
And she must never get the impression that she can have you back anytime she wants, yet you should remain friendly and upbeat so she wont be affraid to reach out.Sounds like she is still very much in love. Give her time…
Hi mate. Sorry for my delay, but I have been very busy.
You are at one of the hardest stages of all.
Her current relationship is starting to go down. They have some problems, things are not as fun anymore… Basicly the honeymoon phase is getting close to the end. So it is natural that she now start wondering about you, and what you have been up to… And most importantly: Can she have you back, just in case the relationship doesnt work out.
As long as she feels she has you as a backup (a safe place), there is nothing stressing her and she is in no hurry to make up her mind…
That is why she now start sniffing around.What you have to do now is one of the hardest things to do.
She needs to feel like she has lost you, and there is no chance for her to win your heart again. You are not interrested in her in that way anomore. Yet, you cannot come of as a jerk.
Remember: You are now a better person than before. You are happy and nothing can chance that.One more thing:
You say she wants to fight for this relationship? Then why is she fishing for some alone time with you? I have many female friends, and I KNOW that if they suddenly started trying to get back in touch with their ex, and tried to get some alone time with him it means they have bracticly given up on their current relationship
