ChristophD

What it took me to realize was her going cold on me and a bit of time. The best advice I can give you is to break up with him, tell him it is because you can no longer be in limbo on the relationship and need to heal. Ask him to not contact you except at work(you both work together?) and it must only be about work. Follow through with this for at least three-for weeks. This will give him the time to realize weather or not this relationship is what he wants. In that time reflect on what went wrong, what he said and what you think. If you think you still want to be together and are willing to work on changing those things then change them. Then once your sure initiate communications with him. Ask him if he would like to grab a coffee after work. Don’t show him how much you want him back but also show just a little interest. If he shows interest back then go out for lunch or a movie with him. Take it one step at a time just as you would starting a new relationship because the original one is gone. You want a new and stronger one, not one with the same problems ready to jump out of the closet.