Hi, thanks for your reply. I agree with everything you have said and your right I need to move on. I realise this and know that deep in my heart. I just find the nastiness very hard to deal with. I’ve been in no contact for 5 days now and he turned up at my door this morning being all nice handing me money for the kids (which he normally puts in my account) I never said a word I just closed the door. For once I never felt a bit of emotion I guess that’s a start. I think my no contact will be for good and not just for the recommended time scales. I guess I’m just going through the motions of a break up still – a year on! Thanks again x