Black Vulture

Update

I contacted her today. I think I really fudged up though.

I made it sound like I was trying to hint at hang out with her. I was just trying to have a light-hearted conversation.

Her last message was sounded like an excuse, but also sounded like she was actually busy. That wasn’t even my intention though – to ask to subtly hangout.

I didn’t respond to her last message. I am too disappointed in myself to respond.

Patricia,

One thing I have to ask though before I do this: Are you sure she is still feeling the same way?

I understand women better than I used. I know that women are very in-tune with their emotions. However, I also understand that a woman can feel one thing one day and then, feel something differently the next day.

Is it possible that she is not feeling the same desire to ‘talk about this later’ as she did two days ago?

Do you suggest then, trying to call her tonight? Or should I wait?

It is funny, I am seeming to get varying degrees of advice from everyone. A lot of people are saying I need to wait for her to contact. I don’t know how successful that will be. She really has never shown the desire to contact me first.

Some are saying that I just need to forget her forever. Remove her from my life. Sure, it might come to that. I have always known that is a possibility.

Patricia, I don’t mean this an insult, but you are the first to tell me that I basically need to have a talk about the ‘relationship’ in earnest. My own hesitation on this is basically it is making me look like I am the one wanting the relationship still. I am nervous that is seems like desperation is oozing out of me by doing this.

I am just curious: Why do you think she was serious when she said we should talk later? The words seemed empty to me, but it could just be my state of mind.

Water under the bridge now, but I know she intentionally did not respond to me yesterday. I know because she looked at my snapchat story later in the day.

How do you suggest I bring this up? I am not really sure how to do it. I don’t want to necessarily talk about ‘us’ and the relationship. I feel like that will only justify her more to reject me again. But, if she truly wants to ‘talk’ I am not sure how to go about doing this. Should I try to engage her with a light text and then ask when a good time to call her would be?

I simply texted her some lighthearted and playful messages. Basically, the messages I have been sending her for over a week now. Just made reference to a couple of inside jokes we shared.

To be honest, I didn’t feel like texting her about last night. I didn’t even mention it. Maybe I should have waited a day to even text her. I was just curious to see if she would even respond to me. I got my answer, but it also seems that she isn’t willing to respond to me.

We don’t talk on the phone. I have tried to call her only one time since we broke up. It didn’t work out for me.

I figured I have two options right now: Text her tomorrow to test the waters. Or, simply do a mini no-contact for a week to see what happens. Then if she doesn’t respond to me during the one week, text her then.

Thank you for your response.

Interesting. You are the first person I have talked to that makes it sound like she was not using me. That her line, “I don’t know what this means. Let’s talk about it later,” was sincere. Not something she was saying to get out of dodge. The reason it sounded like to me was because the way the night ended. She really sounded like she wanted to get out of my place. The second sex session really didn’t help things unfortunately.

I guess I am just unsure how to take her right now. I am not sure if I should contact her today. I almost feel like she is expecting me to contact her. If this is truly a game, that would ultimately give her the power.