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His ex lives in another state. She’s a narcissist that controls my ex. She has no boundaries. Calls him about our relationship. I’m sorry that’s none of her business. She lives with her boyfriend. She doesn’t include him in anything (her boyfriend). I’m sorry but when your children are adults doing things for her constantly is not healthy and she says jump he does it. There’s a fine line of respect for your children’s mother and their mother manipulating them all. I am not jealous of her I actually feel sad for her she continues to tell people they are still married. It makes no sense. it’s really a twisted sick situation and he has never had boundaries with her. If he says anything she threatens to cut off all the funds for their children And Take their vehicles away. That’s not healthy and therefor I believe that boundaries are healthy and necessary. As he had to Continue to appease her in fear of retaliation. There’s respect then there’s a controlling narcissist. I know men hate fighting as do I. Lack of communication was our biggest downfall. He sadly would never do couples counseling. He’s to prideful. He wasn’t ever “allowed” to have other women or relationships around his kids in fear of what their mother would feel. That’s sad. I was the first woman to be around his kids. And I’m sorry but when they are grown boundaries are healthy. Nothing wrong with celebrating birthdays. But there has to be a point where he sets boundaries in his life. Those are all healthy things. But that’s something he needs to Come to realize himself.

You guys broke up and got back together againn then broke up again?

We had lots of arguments. He cannot communicate well at all. His ex wife is a huge issue in our relationship. Never had boundaries with her. their kids are 22 and 19 years old. they are audults now. it’s like when do you stop letting her control your life? I truly feel this no contact is good. It’s making me become stronger and I’m working on me. I know i can be just fine without him. I’ve done it this long and I feel it’s gonna help him become the kind of man he needs to be. He has never had to do life on his own. Never had his own identity. He’s now finding that I believe. I truly feel like he’s my soul mate. I just pray this time apart helps us grow together agian.

It’s been 6 days since we last talked. I still love this man so much. It’s killing me. I’m staying strong with the no contact. He handy deleted me from fb yet. That’s confusing. He’s also kept my comments on his profile pic and it still says he’s in a relationship (I know I’m working on not checking his fb. I’m getting better). If he was done why wouldn’t he change those things? Just don’t understand how 4 years can be thrown out like garbage. I worry he’s gonna move on. If he was in a relationship with soemoen else I could never go back with him. This no contact is definitely helping me get over him. It’s still hard but I deserve so much more. I just pray he wakes up and sees what a good thing we had was.