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Wow! This is actually very eye opening reading this post because my ex started displaying this crazy up and down behavior a week before we broke up which is what led to us breaking up all together. He never acted this way the entire time I was with him (3 years). Maybe my ex started using drugs but we live together so I thought I’d be able to catch that but he could have many opportunities to do it away from me I guess.
If that is the case, he’s using drugs (he still has not given me an explanation for his mood swings) I do not want to get back with him because that would be a scary road to go down. I’m sorry for all the pain it seems you’ve gone through but people with issues like this, it will not get better unless they want to get better.
They have much bigger issues than either one of us could fix ourselves. They would need professional help and more. It would take years if not decades to fix, and that’s still not guaranteed. It is sad because you want to help someone you love but you have to love yourself first. I am thinking of you, stay strong!
Thank you so much @patricia12 I think you are spot on about everything! And I really appreciate the advice. @mariahbalenciaga and @patricia12 I have never witnessed my ex do any kind of drugs while we were together but it is definitely possible that he started doing them around the time we started having “issues.” It actually is a very scary thing to witness his anger. I’m guessing that he could’ve done drugs when I wasn’t around but he never mentioned doing drugs. It would explain his unstable behavior.
Have either of you experienced anything like this with a person you know?
@pepijn he also took me off Snapchat and blocked me on Instagram that same day 🙁 I have no idea what to make of this. Should I just ignore his messages if they’re mean? Thank you for your help. I really appreciate it.
Hey guys! Thank you so much @patricia12 and @pepijn for your responses. So update on the situation. I texted my ex to get the rest of my clothes out of our apartement and he asked if it was ok if he was there when I went to get them and I asked him why – he said he wanted to chat with me and I said I didn’t know if it was a good idea considering how angry he’s been. Long story short the meet up ended up being a complete disaster. It started with him being very nice and saying he was still very much in love with me and he gave me a few gifts… both had meaning to me. He got me one bracelet I’ve been wanting for a long time and also a few clothes items that I had mentioned I liked. I’m not sure why he did that? I asked him why he got me the gifts and I asked if he felt sorry for what he did and that’s why he was giving the gifts. He got very that I asked that and then started making mean comments again saying I caused all of our problems. I told him I wasn’t going to deal with this anymore and I left the gifts in the apartment and just left it at that. After I left he started texting me mean things and said that he was trying to be nice by giving me the gifts and that I don’t appreciate anything and just a bunch of nasty things that weren’t even true. I didn’t respond to the mean text messages and after that he said “you will never appreciate anything I do for you and you should know that the reason we aren’t together is because of you. It will never work between us. Don’t contact me ever again Ari” this text message made me so angry but I chose not to respond. I think he still is very much confused and basically an emotional wreck. I’m not sure what I should do at this point… just not respond?
I am just so confused by his behavior. Why buy me the gifts? Why try and be at our apartment when I pick up my things? Why initiate conversation to just say to never contact him.
My father again is concerned and told me his behavior is very unstable and that he warned me to stay away for now.
