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Well now it’s currently day 45 of no contact with her because the first time I broke It, It didn’t end up working out so much because she still didn’t want to talk to me. She hasn’t shown any hint of missing me or anything there has been zero contact between the two of us and I still miss her a lot and I don’t know what to do. I know I should wait at least 60 days this time but I don’t think that will even be enough and I just had surgery and am stuggling without her. Any advice will be extremely helpful to hold on.
I’m currently on day 18 of no contact and she hasn’t tried to contact me or anything yet and I don’t know if I should contact her once 30 days is over or wait for her to contact me if she ever Does or take more time on no contact. Any advice is appreciated.
Yeah I’m only 16 and she was my first everything and I was her so it’s really hard to let go and we were actually really good together other then a couple things that didn’t go our way but anyway I have now gone 5 days with complete no contact and my friend that she likes has said he’s not been contacting her too because he won’t continue to talk to her knowing how much I still care after what happened but she’s been texting him a lot asking to talk and stuff like that and I don’t know if no contact is really working if he’s also doing that to her and she likes him so I feel hopeless
So I found out her and my friend had been seeing each other and lied to me about It and when I found out I was really mad but my friend has agreed to back off and not talk to her anymore and I have not spoken to her for a day now because yesterday she asked to go through my phone because she wanted to see if I still had pictures of her and she saw I had been talking to a girl a lot and seemed a little annoyed with It and I asked if she really didn’t have any feelings for me and she said she couldn’t answer that like in a way that meant she still does but then I found out about my friend and everything went bad and she said he’s an upgrade over me and all this stuff so idk what to do because he won’t talk to her anymore so I guess I need to just be patient and hope she’ll come back to me
I’m just really confused on everything now because we were each other first and only everything and now I don’t know if she’s done more with other guys and she’s changed completely ever since we broke up and I do love her more than anything but she thinks I’m psycho and wants nothing to do with me and even after the way she’s treated me after we broke up I still want her back but I also don’t because of how she’s changed and I don’t know what to do
I will restart no contact again but I just found out she has kissed my friend four weeks ago and she did tell the girl that she still loves me but also said she won’t take me back ever again so I don’t know what to do
I was invited to a party earlier and I didn’t know she was there but when I walked in I saw her and she was crying so I went to ask if she was ok and she saw me and cried more and ran away and I was made to leave and then her friend came and told me that she doesn’t have feelings for me anymore and that she has someone else but that I could come back in if I don’t talk to her and I didn’t but she saw me again and ran out again crying so I was forced to leave and a girl escorted me out saying that the other girl was lying about her having someone else and that my ex told her she still loves me but idk which to believe or what to do now because her best friend says she has someone else but the friend does hate me so idk if I can trust that or if I should listen to the other girl.
She just told me she doesn’t think she can do this again and things are too stressful and complicated with me and there’s drama and she can’t explain.
I don’t know if I should show her that I won’t come back because she’s kinda depressed right now and I don’t want something like that to have a negative effect on the situation. She keeps ending it because she says she feels pressure and she doesn’t want to date right now.
A month has passed since I last said anything and here’s what has happened. Me and my ex have hung out a few times and we still talk constantly we will get into these times when we act like we’re together and she’ll say she’s ok with it but then after a week she’ll end it but then a couple days later we’ll be back to that. Currently she is saying she wants to be with me but she doesn’t want a relationship and she doesn’t know if we’ll get back together. I asked her if she believes we will get back together and she said she does, but doesn’t know if we should. A week ago there was this girl that was texting my ex saying she was going to try to get me to date her and my ex didn’t like that. She told me the only person I can be with is her and the only person she can be with is me and that she was sorry for saying we wouldn’t get back together and that she was just trying to help me in case we didn’t get back together but now we’re in the situation I told you above. All help is appreciated
I didn’t really listen when you guys told me to wait 30 days to talk to her because we started talking again like 3 days later and have been since. Me and her have talked a lot and walk around school together and we text a lot. Sometimes the text will get sexual and stuff. Some nights she’ll call me right before bed and we’ll talk a little and go to bed. A couple days ago she asked me to drive to come see her because I had just gotten my license so I did and we hugged in the back of the car and started to get sexual with each other. After I made it home she told me all she could think about is being in my arms, but now two days later she is back to saying how great of friends we are and how she doesn’t want to date rn and she doesn’t know about us but it probably won’t happen. We have a day planned in a couple weeks to hangout and it’ll basically be a date but she isn’t calling it one. What should I do?
Ok so yesterday we had texted and it she is really upset because me and her had sex when we were dating, but stopped for the last couple months. Anyway she said she feels like she ruined herself and she feels like she can’t date anyone because she’ll have to tell them and they’ll leave her and she’s really upset about what happened. I feel like this is part of why she’s saying we will never get back together and she’ll never have feelings for me again.
@bigslick1251 this may be kinda weird but I was wondering if there was a different way to communicate about my situation because something has happened and it made it more complicated but I don’t want to share it on a public site, I understand if not but it’d be greatly appreciated.
@patricia12 thank you for the advice, I’ll stop trying to communicate out of school and I’ll keep things short and sweet in person, but what about this guy she is talking to. I’m really worried that it isn’t a rebound and she’ll actually be in a long relationship, and she told me it’s not going to happen with me, because she has lost feelings.
