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I have done NC once before. It took me full 30 tired days although I always had to show on facebook to let him know that I was really ok without him. During my NC, exactly after 13 days, he shared a song on his facebook that I am sure he was talking about me. Maybe he really highly expected that I would contact a lot but the fact that I didn’t do anything make him surprised, and he said he felt tired. Our relationship before I did NC was good. It may not easy to explain to you guys but to sum up, before I started NC, we both agreed that we should have more time to think about the relationship and whenever we talked, everything was really pleased, like we were still in a relationship, and even we kissed and hugged.
Yes, at the moment I have to say that I want him more than he wants me. That’s a pity but it’s true. To him, with me maybe good and without me is still ok because he was the one who want to break up first. But to me, I really want to be with him, nothing else. That’s why I chose to fight for it.
Believe me, I am not being needy. Even my friends tell me that they don’t recognize that I’m really hurt if I don’t tell them. I am become a better version: having a part-time job, good study result, hanging out with friends a lot. I’m sure that in his eyes, I am not miserable without him, at least because I am trying to show that. So please, give me some advices about what should I do can make him be attracted? Thank you so much.Hi,
I am really confused now. I did almost everything. I did full no contact for 30 days, then I contacted him via text message even phone call on his birthday. I am always the person who text first but he messages he replied, I think they were positive. He asked how about my lives, studying, whether I was tired after school. Everything seems really positive in my eyes and I can feel that our story is getting better and better slowly. However, all of my friends, they said that he is just trying to be nice. He knows that I am still in love and he doesn’t want to hurt me. Positive reply doesn’t mean that he has a special feeling for me. Why do all of them only look at the negative side? Some people said that I shouldn’t contact him anymore. Let he be the one who contact first. But I know him, he will never contact first. I want him so I have to do something. I can’t wait for him doing that.
What should I do now? Please help me. Thank you.Thanks for your advices. But I am still confused.
My ex is a headstrong person. Because he was the person who wanted to break up first so he has to stick with his decision. I don’t think he will start the conversation first. If I don’t text him, it seems like he has forgotten me completely.
I don’t know what’s on his mind, whether he still loves me, or not. If I have chance to talk to him or to break the ice between us, I don’t want to miss it. After such a long time without contacting, he thought I had moved on. I don’t want him to think that “It’s ok, she moved on”, I want him to want me back. Is it ok to make him feel like I am still here although I still behave like I don’t care?OMG, I share the same thinking with you. Whenever I try to follow NC, I am always afraid of he will forget me or he will feel it’s good when I don’t contact because he doesn’t be annoyed anymore and have time for his crush :(( This feeling is killing me !!
Kevin said on mail that ex will be sad and hurt after break up, like us. But I don’t think so. Maybe they are busy with their new crush right?
I’m so sorry. I just can feel the same as you but can’t help. But my choice is NC, you can consider it. I think one of the reasons my boyfriend want to break up, that I was so talkative, so annoying. And behaving calmly is the best choice of mine at the moment to show him that I have changed.
Just imagine that your ex want to break up, so she doesn’t like the old version of you. I think reminding good memories can make her more confused, more angry and she may avoid you. I am a girl and I know she always remember them herself. Wonder why she wanted to break up and start changing at the point.I have the same feeling too. Sometimes I think I do well, feel quite happy I mean. But after that I realized he doesn’t with me anymore, that feeling brings me down immediately. And sometimes I wonder the same question: should I move on or still keep hope? Is he the one for me? I think only time can give me the exact answer, but waiting and trying to be happy without him are really really terrible. Anyway, only time can give the answer and all we should do is waiting and improve ourselves.
Don’t try to forget her. At the moment, you can’t forget her easily and trying to do that just make your mood worse.
I am changing the situation into something like I am still in a relationship with him but we have to separate for some time to think about us. He is still my inspiration so I can think about him and be happy. You can try this way, I think it quite effective for yourself now.Your story is not too different from mine.
I and my boyfriend are the same age, 20. And we have been together for 1 year and 11 months. Because of some reasons (he said that we were not suitable anymore), we broke up since last January. During that time, I tried no-contact to him, and the longest is for 10 days. But everything is still the same. I met him last Thursday and we really had fun together, like we were still a couple. But when I asked him about coming back, he said that we should be friend and because he has move on with someone, he want to end everything completely. You know, we still have fun together, talk on phone like nothing happen, I can feel the way he looks at me is still the same, but he said just want to be friend?????????
I am really confused. I begged him so many time, being needy bla bla.. and I feel regret. Maybe ex doesn’t like the old person of us, who always be needy and always beg. At the last phone call, I asked him to think about us one more time and he said Ok. That may be a good sign, right?
I think that you should leave your ex alone for some times. It will be really hard to be strong but sticking with them all the time, begging, phoning, texting, asking… doesn’t make anything change.Your ex will get angry and find way to get away from you, it’s the worst. Now I have to learn to be silent, too.
Goodluck to us 😉Hi guys, Hi Kevin
I have read that in the magic letter, I have to act like I really want to get out of his life right? However, he may respond like: ‘You want to go? Fine, OK, bye’? So what should I do next if he behave like that?
