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My ex left me on 2/27 coming out of a 6 year relationship and just yesterday I wrote her a “goodbye” type letter.
Basically the excuse she gave me to the break up was just that.. an excuse. Days after the break up i noticed her giving this other man attention, and low and behold after “creeping” him, found out they were seeing eachother.
To that end I decided to give up my no contact, and let her know that I know what shes doing. Letter started out blissfully, but by the end of it the reality started to sink in. She crushed me but giving her this letter helped me find my own closure per say.
I hand delivered it to her and she seemed shocked to see me, she was all dolled up like she was going out on a date. She claimed she read it and responded through txt (Ignored her first calls). Her response was robotic.
The following morning this new boy she was seeing liked all my photos on social media (to be rude) and then blocked me, and then she blocked me as well. Hasn’t made attempt to contact me since..
Thoughts? need advice please!
I think that he is just a rebound. Give her some time and work on yourself. Definitely do no contact. Sometimes girls go through a phase after a long term relationship and will realise they were dumb. Hope this helped, please check my thread and help me too. Also, dont forget to update us on what’s going on.
Agree entirely it reeks of a rebound, the problem is you cannot push too hard or you become the “common enemy” so to speak in their relationship. This means he can complain about you or talk crap and since she is mad or emotional she will agree or at least hold her tongue and not defend you.
Go NC and do your own thing for a while, it will probably fall apart soon and the faster you walk away the quicker it will end. It really is crazy counterintuitive but the closest I got to my ex since we broke up was about 3 months ago, after 2 months of NC and me having gone on a few dates that she knew about, do not be afraid to go out and do your own thing, jealousy can be a big eye opener as well. Plus, no one has ever walked away from having someone interested in them feeling worse about themselves, going out can really help build up your confidence again and get you out of the post-breakup mood.
I suggest trying to go on a few dates and seeing other girls. I know that 6 years is a long time to be with someone, but she may not be the same girl that you once were with. If she was seeing another guy durning your relationship, I suggest trying to move one. I know that it is easier said then done. Do things that you enjoy that maybe she held you back from and try to find yourself.
I appreciate all of the feedback, thanks so much..
It most def. is easier said then done. The guy she is now currently seeing is the total opposite of any guy she would ever date or be into. He is a self centered “male model” who does nothing but take pictures of himself with his shirt off for attention..The last person I thought she would be into.
Regardless, She does have a history of doing things like this, sadly I was the fool and took her back every time. She cheated twice and I took her back, and while being on and off for those 6 years, I tried to move on as well. We met when we were 16, I am now 22 and she is 21.
Maybe it is just a phase, you’re right. I know she will come around eventually. 6 years is hard to just forget about. I just find it SOOOOO odd that she would respond acknowledging my letter, never respond back to me, and then have her new boy block me, as well as her. Just looks suspicious.
Like come on now, If I know you two are together, whats there to hide? just be honest about it.. Hardest part, and the reason why I even wrote the letter was for my own closure because she gave me none. I have gone out on several dates and it’s fun, believe me..But she is on my mind always which sucks hah.
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