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I have been broken up with my girlfriend for 3 months now. Recently we went on about 4 dates in an attempt to see if we can work it out. Im 27, shes 24.. weve been dating almost 2 years.
Our dates went really well and she held my hand and gave me a pop kiss on the lips when i would drop her off. I started believing that things looked positive and i started getting excited and hopeful that we would be able to get back together. she has a very busy schedule with school and work so i was only able to see her about twice a week.
Recently we went canoeing all day and watched a movie at her house. she would lay her head on my chest as we watched and we held hands. i tried kissing her but she said she didnt want to make out in her bed. she only would peck me on the lips. but it seemed more than that.. i could see the look in her eyes of disappointment. When i left, i felt sad.
she later texted me that she had a great time and i said so did i but finally told her that i was hurting. I said that i wanted to be with someone who wanted to kiss me, who wanted to make plans with me and was excited to see me. She responded saying that perhaps we cant go back to the way things were and that she felt our chemistry and spark had died. I just responded.. “I hope you find happiness. I will always treasure the good times we spent together”. I havent heard from her since which was 3 days ago.
Ive been fighting for her since the day we broke up. and my heart is crushed that it might actually be over for good. I keep thinking I just lost my soulmate and the girl of my dreams. Maybe im putting her on a pedestal.. maybe ive lost sight of who i am without her. ive just been a mess thinking its over. ive been clinging to hope this whole time weve been broken up and now it seems that hope has gone. I am so sad that i relate the place where i live to thoughts about her and contemplate moving to another state as a entirely fresh start. My life just seems to be at a cross roads and im lost.
Any advice or thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
Hey man. Very similar situation over here. We’ve been having semi-regular sleepovers. She said we were on the right path and she had no interest in seeing anyone else. Found out today she’s been on two first dates but doesn’t want to go on any seconds. Told her we can’t be sleeping together and seeing other people so I ended it. 5 minutes later she asked if we could take the weekend to think about things.
Moral of the story is you are doi ng the right thing. There’s no guarantee you (or i) get our girls back but we can’t live in this gray space. They either can have us and nobody else. Or everyone and not us. We deserve more. You said it perfectly you deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you. If she does she knows where to find you.
Hey NEverGiveUp,
I wanted to thank you for your advice, it really helps me control my emotions. Our stories are very similar and I think its still possible to fix these relationships. lets follow the steps and keep each other updated and give support as much as possible.
Thank you so much,
-Matt
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