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Hey all! I’ve been doing NC for only 5 days, but i can’t help but think what if it doesn’t work? He hasn’t reached out to me at all. We are both 25 years old and only went out for 3 months, even though I fell hard and did love him. After the breakup, I was texting and snapchatting him and it was like 5 of mine to 1 of his and it was always like pulling teeth to get him to respond. I asked him one time about it and he said he just needed his space – that lasted 2 days and I was texting him again. I told him i didn’t want to lose a friend. He would snapchat me even though he was with friends, and he even told me some TMI details about when he was sick once and i probably somehow overthought it, but i thought that was something. Since i haven’t contacted him – i haven’t even looked at his snap story and he is now the first one to look at my snap story. I also saw where he befriended a girl on facebook, but she is not his type so im not worried. Im just worried that this NC thing won’t work? Even if there is no future for us relationship wise (not sure), I definitely want him as a friend because we were great together – always doing adventurous things and I would HATE to lose him completely.
I’m in a break up with the woman of my dreams we dated for 3 1/2 years and we have broken up before. but for some reason she says she no longer wants to continue so I feel your pain and i understand how hard it is to have no contact. I think you need to start taking him off snapchat and social media and continue your life without contacting him for a longer period. He obviously still cares to a extent because he replies to your attempts but you are showing desperation. which is a mistake I made with my current break up. I’m starting the no contact over again and so should you but this time start making positive changes and show that you don’t need him in your life. And once he see this he will come back im sure of it
I messed up the no contact and she was very mad that i wasn’t giving her space and that I kept leaving letters and flowers and that i was still hanging out with her brother. how ever she still has my engagement ring and her brother says she puts the flowers in vases and keeps my letter in a drawer. She also contacted me after a car accident to see if i was okay which showed that she still cares. So honestly follow kevins steps and stay strong and avoid contact for longer than 5 days and i think he will come running back as soon as you show that your life is not only the same but better with out him, even if its not try to give that illusion that it is.
Thanks for the input! Im staying strong so far – i just hope he’s missing me and it does work, like I mentioned he hasn’t contacted me but maybe he still needs his space. I guess im just afraid he won’t or never will and will be completely over me. Even if whatever comes out of it that we just remain friends, I would be ok with that – I just don’t want to lose him forever and part of me is afraid i already have. ..This is literally the longest I have ever gone without talking to him like ever, but i know its for the best.
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