What happened.

My boyfriend broke up with me for the third time 🙁 this time he’s saying I don’t understand him and we are not meant to be. I don’t know why he’s so wishy washy. It’s very disappointing. He is a deep thinker so sometimes (rarely) we get into small arguments and he thinks too deep about things and tells me I don’t understand him. Sunday night we were just fine and he was texting me at night asking me about seeing me Monday and making plans with me. Because he hasn’t talked to me all day, I just told him I guess I’m boring? But I didn’t mean it in a bad way just saying I miss you in a way. And he automatically got defensive and told me he just felt like not talking that day and he said “but of course you will take offense to that”. And I said I didn’t I just simply said that in a joking way. He got mad and told me it was more of passive aggressive and me saying it was a joking way is not true bc he knows he hasn’t talked to me all day. So I try to explain and say it’s different over text and it’s not the same as the way I would say it in person and he just didn’t want to hear me out and told me he just doesn’t think we should be together anymore. Apparently because he gets mad when he shouldn’t be mad at me. Then I tried to contact him and he just said I’m sorry and didn’t reply to anymore of my texts. This is just so weird that I would get dumped for something stupid like that. The guy just bought me flowers the day before and he was planning on seeing me the next day and all of a sudden just cuts me off. I just don’t get it. He was so loving and attached and just cuts me off all of a sudden. I don’t know what to think anymore. I started no contact 2 days ago but I’m thinking if he comes back I’m going to give him a hard time as last time I was easy to let him back in. Any other advice about this? He also smokes weed and I am beginning to think that could be the issue with his deep thinking. I know it causes him to over think about things and it’s a problem. Thanks for your time. He’s such a good person, always takes good care of me, he’s always loving me wanting to see me everyday. I just don’t get it. Our relationship was so good and had more positives than anything. I feel like I lost my other half and can’t function without him.

I totally agree. And what’s weird is he’s the one always asking to see me. I rarely asked him and even sometimes I did make excuses to just take a break every now and then. This smoking thing is causing problems I figured. I just thought if he came back I would give it one last shot (trying this third time charm). But if It didn’t work out then definitely not going back again. I’ll just see what happens and definitely taking things slow. I don’t know how one person can be so loving and caring then suddenly disappear.