Update: One Year Post Breakup

Hey guys,

Here’s an update on my breakup. My ex and I️ dated for a year on Christmas Day 2015 and broke up in January 2017. The healing and moving on part wasn’t easy at all. I️ was dealing with other things as well so I️ had a very negative outlook on everything. Let’s just say I️ was very depressed. I️ did reach out to him 4 months into our breakup and told him I️ missed him and still wanted to be with him. I️ didn’t beg or plead. I️ just expressed myself. He said he needed time so I️ left him alone after that.

Fast forward to December 2017, I was still trying to move on and I️ found out he was in a new relationship (they broke up 3 months later). Honestly I️ was hurt. I️ cried a few times but I was okay. I️ took all of this as a learning experience. for the next few months, I went on a few dates meanwhile in order to move on. I focused on healing.

Fast forward to late May 2018 (which was a year and 3 month post breakup), he re-added me on social media. He reached out to me and asked how I was doing and vice versa. He wanted us to be friends and I was okay with that for the time being. About a month later, we went to the movies as friends. But afterwards, he confessed that he still wanted to be with me.

Before leaving, we talked for hours about our breakup and what caused it. It was all because of miscommunication and assumptions. Our relationship was good for the most part. We barely argued and we were best friends. But what caused it to slip was due to him being distant and his dad did not like me at all.
Also, he hid his Snapchat from me so I wouldn’t see his stories. From that, assumed that he was seeing someone else or he was no longer interested in me. Using a catfish account, I asked him if he has a girlfriend and he said no. So when I broke up with him and since he didn’t stop me or said anything, I believed that’s what he wanted, but it wasn’t. He told me he had alot on his mind that day, so he was caught of guard when it happened. And he was hurt, so when I reached out to him months after the breakup wanting to get back together, he said he needed time because he was still hurt by it, not because he was no longer interested like I thought. And about the Snapchat situation, he hid it so wouldn’t see something that I wasn’t used to him doing (smoking weed) but it wasn’t because of cheating. He acknowledged that it was wrong, he won’t do it again. About the catfish account, he knew it was me from the start. He doesn’t know anyone by the name I used, the snap score was very low (he does streaks), and I write in proper grammar so he recognized that. He was hurt that I even made a fake account to spy on him, but I wouldn’t have to if he didn’t block me in the first place. So that was settled and he voluntarily gave me his password.

But anyway he was distant because he was very stressed with alot and didn’t have time for anything or anyone. But at the time, I couldn’t let go of the assumption because of trust issues due to being cheated on in a previous relationship so I expected the worst. So the majority of my assumptions were debunked.

So today, we’re back together and currently working on our relationship. So far, it’s going very well and we’re closer than before. After all this time, we still loved each other. He’s not a bad guy but he did make so poor choices but they weren’t extreme. I think we needed that time to be apart in order for things to fall in place.