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My ex told me she just doesn’t have it in her to give me another try. She said we tried once and it didn’t work. But then texted me saying I was liar that I wasn’t talking to this new girl because she posted pictures of us. She said you know I don’t like her and was all jealous and stuff. And was flipping out on me at 2 in the morning. I thought I almost had her back, but she said the feelings came back because it was the first time we saw each other since the breakup. And doesn’t THINK it’ll work. So should I just let go of her or give it some time? Opinions needed.
She speaking from her emotions in the NOW. Give it time, and let some healing take place.
The tighter you try to hold on right now, the more it will cause distance.
So do both: Give it time and let go.
And she will be jealous regardless if she wants to get you back right now or not.
There’s a sense of feeling as if we have “rights” to our exes whether we are the dumper or dumpee.I’d just give it time. You can go NC or you can try to be false friends if she is willing to speak with you.
Yeah she’ll speak with me. And she randomly will txt me late at night all the time I don’t know why. I do want her back and when we see each other I can just tell by the way she looks at me that she still has feelings. It just getting her to say yes to see me
Also I forgot to add that she made up a fake boyfriend to make me jealous? Like why would she do that
She’s trying to see if you still care. It’s part of a game some people play. She’s testing you. lol
Don’t chase. Be confident. Be happy (genuinely) and show that you’ve made changes. You can do this as false friends. Or after NC. Again, that choice is yours.
I should say that NC should be done if you start to figure that false friendship isn’t going to work in your favor.
What should I say to her to even establish a false friendship? Like to see if she’d meet up as friends or what?
Yeah. Ask her out for lunch or coffee. Don’t attempt to be intimate. Just speak as friends. Be happy. Talk about interesting things. Go some place you’ve never been before. You can even ask her by saying,
“Hey. I was checking out new restaurants I want to try. I’m going to (enter place) this (enter day) at (enter time). You can meet up with me if you’d like. If you think she wouldn’t want to be alone, get some friends to go with you and invite her in the same fashion. Don’t seem like what she says influences whether you go or not. Just make it seem like you were going to go and wanted to send her an open invitation.
(NOTE: NOT ALL OF MY ADVICE IS GUARANTEED TO WORK. AND YOU CAN REWORD IT BASED ON HOW WELL YOU KNOW YOUR EX.)
Yeah that’s the thing it’s getting her to say yes to seeing me.. Which is the most difficult part that’s why she won’t do it.
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