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I just wanted to give everyone a quick positive note to stay focused with the NC plan and keep your eye on the prize. Anyone feeling hopeless or in need of some encouragement, I hope this post helps you. NC definitely can work.
It wasn’t easy, but I successfully completed 30 days no contact with my ex 2 weeks ago. Over the past 2 weeks, I’ve been slowly exchanging messages with her and I’ve been getting very positive responses. Today, I decided to progress things slightly and I brought up one of the good experiences that had occurred during our relationship and she came right back with details that even I had forgotten! I am certainly not back together with my ex yet, but I feel I’m on the right path. I knew this wouldn’t come quickly. There have been ups and downs, but I’ve stayed the course. Sometimes things haven’t gone as I expected, but I don’t let my ex see I’ve been rattled. I seem to be gaining her attention more and more each time we talk.
So stick to your plan and stay focused and positive.
Gr8 stuff 🙂
But wld it be right to contact to ur ex if she is in a rebound even after your nc has ended??I don’t see an issue with contacting your ex if they’re in a rebound. However, if you decide to contact your ex while they’re in a rebound, you can’t let that effect how you talk with your ex. You can’t get upset about and it really shouldn’t even be a topic of conversation if you do things right. When you reestablish contact it should be light and fun. No serious or negative topics. You want your ex getting excited about your fun messages.
I’m glad things are still going well! I hope you two are able to start fresh and move past any and all problems that led to the break up! Keep staying strong 🙂
Ty 4 dis gr8 advice
And best of luck! 🙂
But just one more thing what should be time frame like contact her 2-3 days or wait till a whole week then contact her again
Ps : i contacted her after nc recently and got mixed responses like her responses were quick but she was a little reluctant to repli it seems,, it been 5 days since..
What should be my next move?Ty for replying again 🙂
Bt is your ex too in a rebound right now?
Plus what to guys talk.about like normal day to day stuff or u bring some old memory stuff upto her??
Thanks :))I’m not exactly sure if my ex is in a rebound or not. I’m confident that it doesn’t matter if she is or not. I know her better than any rebound will ever know her at this point, so I’m not overly concerned. Once you regain attraction with someone it doesn’t matter who they’re with at the moment, they’ll be thinking more about you than their rebound.
After the 30 days NC, start by sending one light hearted fun message per week to your ex until they respond positively. Something simple that reminded you of them. Once they respond positively than you can bump it up to 2-3 light hearted messages per week. After those go positively than you can mix in a positive memory message.
My initial few contacts with her were regarding videogames, tv shows, etc that she was interested in. Light, fun topics that I knew she was into. I would mention that I was playing or watching one of them and it reminded me of her, made me smile, etc. or I’d say something like “you must be excited about ______” regarding something that she was interested in. I’d keep our conversations brief (quality over quantity) and then I’d tell her a reason that I had have to leave. After a few of these exchanges and seeing that she was answering me positively, I recently stepped it up to an old memory that we enjoyed. This week I plan on increasing the amount of messages from 2-3 to about 3-4 messages spread out across the week. One every couple of days. Mixing it up between an old memory or two and a few light casual things she’s interested in.
If things go well this week, than in the following week, I plan on bringing up a bit more personal memories (ahem sexual). Also, some supportive messages about things she may be going through etc. Things to build intimacy. That’s my game plan, I hope it helps you.
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