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I’ve posted various other topics of my situation on here if anyone cares to view them in regards to what i’m about to post..
So I sent my ex a heart felt 13 page letter basically saying how i felt, and ending with a goodbye (because I now know she left me for someone else).
Shortly after she sent me back a response followed by her new boy toy following me on instagram and “liking” all my pictures to be an ass. Then he blocks me, and so does she.
You mean to tell me my ex of 6 years told this new boy of hers of 3 weeks about the letter i wrote her? and took my grand gesture as a damn joke?
She is now still posing snap chat stories of him in little to no clothing dancing around like theyre having this grand ol’ time..and still liking all of his posts.
This guys a “male model” who posts nothing but pictures with his shirt off and is in love with himself.
Do you guys think she will eventually see that relationship for what it really is and eventually try to contact me? I mean 6 years is 6 years. You cant just forget about that because of a 6 pack..I have a 6 pack too lol. thoughts?
That’s extremely immature and pathetic that he did that to you. I’m sorry you’re going through this. The best thing you can do is act unaffected by it. Clearly they’re both trying to get under your skin. Very, very immature. I know my ex does subtle things to get my attention on social media, but this is really bad. You’re being the bigger person by not retaliating.
She’s going to realize that this guy can’t give her what you can. You have 6 years of history. I would do NC, it’ll probably drive her crazy since it looks like she’s looking for attention. He sounds like a rebound, because why else would she be rubbing him in your face? If it’s truly love, no one else’s opinion should matter.
i agree it is very imature of her. But keep this in mind:
The first 3-6 months after a break up it is normal for people to change. This is the stage where they need to go out and “experience the world” and enjoy their new freedom. This can hurt the dumpee a lot to wach sometimes. So I always say: NEVER judge a person by what they do at this stage. They are not themselfs, and in this case she could also be under the influence of HIM…
Pretend like it doesnt bother you… In fact: You didnt even notice 🙂
She will return to her old self again… All you can do while we wait is to work on yourself, and become a better person. And for gods sake: Look the other way. You might not like the person she has become….The same happend to me… I had to block my ex from all social medias… I had to do it, cause I didn´t like what I saw… She was a completely different person. A person I could never love… But she has more or less returned to normal now (7 months later)
UPDATE**
While I was working this evening, she randomly called me but I quickly ended the conversation because I was busy at work and said I would talk to her later.
About and hour later she texted me stating the following:
“Hope your shift is going well. Just calling to let you know that im open to talking things through now. (because after I sent that letter she did the whole blocking thing) I havent been receiving your texts/calls if there were any, but if you want to talk, im ready. thats all”
I mean I was a little taken back by this..Why block me then wait almost 2 weeks to contact me to tell me youre ready to “talk” about things? when I KNOW for a fact shes still with this kid doing god knows what.
My text response was:
“Hey sorry, super busy tonight with work. But yeah, I wasn’t texting you or calling but whenever you want to meet up and talk let me know, we can grab a coffee or something”.
Her Response:
“Im going to CT this weekend so maybe monday”
I just gave her the “okay” back.
Thoughts on this?? Def caught me off guard, I mean just yesterday she was posting snap chat stories with this guy.
You did very well my friend. 🙂
She waited 2 weeks because she needed to process her feelings first. It was only when she removed you from social medias that you were “comletely gone” and she then realised the world without you. She may also have needed time to sort out her feelings with this new guy, her guilt ect. I dont know exactly but she has started to miss you and she had some stuff in her head she needed to sort out first.
You also did very well with texting her. You never invested more into the conversation then she did. Very good 🙂
She may have caught you off guard, but I dont think she saw that. You played it very cool.Thanks Creed,
I have another update, I got a screen shot from a friend this morning of a picture her new boy toy posted on his instagram account the night after she sent me those texts and called me.
I guess this guy shes with now is going away to NYC which explains her going to CT, whether thats the truth or not.
Also the picture he posted she commented “So handsome” with a kissy face.
I just find it odd she would want to meet up and talk but still is broadcasting publicly how she feels about this kid and still seeing him for sure.
Makes me feel less like she actually misses me and more like she wants to give me a reason why she left because she never did. ( I basically found things out for myself that I explained in the letter).
Dont over-analyze everything she writes. I did the same and it can drive you insane. Woman tend to write like that. With words like “handsome” or “good looking” and a lot of kissing smilies. My ex did the same, even while we were still together, and it never bothered me. Its just the language they use when they are online. I even know girls i happy relationships that writes like that to me.
I am not going to be the judge and tell you why you ex writes like that to this dudes post. All I am saying is: dont over-analyze it. It will only drive you crazy, and you will never know for sure anyway.
Continue like you never saw that screenshot.But why wait a month? I never initiated contact with her once, its always been her. The letter was the only time i initiated contact. If shes playing it off and showing the world that shes interested in this guy, why waste her own time to give me the “reasons” why she left me? isn’t it obvious?
I just find it odd that she would wait all that time just to meet up and give me whatever preconceived notions so solidify why she left me, when I know and we all know it was for this guy.
Was it because she didn’t want to hurt me so she hid it?
Why tell me now that shes broadcasting more on social media of their “fling” then she ever did for me in 6 years! Def a honey moon stage, just find it odd. I feel meeting up with her and listening to hear lie to my face isn’t going to help any chance of getting her back. She has to realize it on her own.
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