Should I just go back to contact or what?

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We had a great time at the movies and were biking back and everything was good until we pulled up at my apartment briefly. Then he started looking all worried and distressed and told me I should go take care of the cats and he wanted to just go home and he’d see me later. And I got frustrated and he asked what was up and I just told him it upsets me and is confusing/hurtful when we have plans to do something, like eat together and talk about the movie after, and he changes them up at the last second. And it makes me feel like I can’t contact him or try to set anything up without it being a burden on him or me forcing myself on him because he ends up pulling this stuff and canceling. And then he got even more upset looking and started to kind of pull away on his bike and I told him I’d really appreciate it if he didn’t just bike away from me. He stopped and I asked him what was wrong or if he could explain to me why he’s acting this way and he told me nothing was wrong. He always does that. I told him I know him better than that and he can lie to himself but he can’t lie to me. He gets this look on his face and his eyes go this certain way and I just know. And he pulled me into a hug and we were really close again and he told me to come by in a half an hour. I told him I wasn’t going to force myself on him, but that I am sick of having plans and having them get cancelled and he told me to come and that he’d let me know and said he’s not planning on texting me in a half an hour to blow me off. And I just said okay and came inside and saw your message. And now I’m just confused and hurting. I feel like I’m forcing him to make plans with me when he doesn’t want to, but at the same time, I know I can’t make him do anything he doesn’t want to do. But I just don’t understand why he seems/acts so upset and won’t just admit it. That’s the first step. I’m not even asking him to tell me what’s upsetting him. Just to admit that he’s upset. I don’t know. He’s so confusing. But he just told me to “Come over!” What the heck.

@ellie So you two are back again? what did he say? because by his behavior back then it seemed like he’s not sure about your relationship. Maybe by ignoring him you made him think of it again or could be that he didn’t intend to end it from the beginning?
I’m happy for you, but as you said it will never end if you keep going like this and it needs to change. You both want to be with each other which is great! but the relationship needs to change in order to keep growing. You have to make things on your terms. I think you should be less available to him as I said before, let him chase you! Because it seems like he doesn’t want to lose you and also want a future with you.

@between1standa Yes I will read it 🙂