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she told me she misses me :/ help

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  • January 23, 2015 at 9:18 am #25933
    Arjun
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    What if she tells him her insecurities and he embraces it :/ she will have no problem with him then and everything will get better between them :/

    How is it good signs though because this is just one obstacle and once its overcome then nothing will be a problem then.

    January 23, 2015 at 10:30 am #25943
    IamKramer
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    About her insecurities i dont think you can do much about it if she decides to sgare them. If they are together then she will.

    Its a good sign because she’s trying to find you in this guy. Thats why she ends up coming to you for emotional support something which is nonexistent in her current relationship.

    Starve her off it and i dont think that relationship will last. How do you starve her off it? Do NC. Put ypurself and your happiness first not hers.

    January 23, 2015 at 11:14 am #25949
    Arjun
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    so if she reaches out to me then I should just ignore her regardless of what she says.

    I want to ignore her fully but I want her to know I’m still that caring person I was when we were together but right now she may misunderstand this ignorance to be a case of me changing for the worse and becoming someone totally different :/ how do I stop her from thinking I am changing for the worse

    January 23, 2015 at 11:44 am #25952
    IamKramer
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    Try sending a final cryptic message. Showing that you still care for her. Then do NC. Its not the last time you’ll ever talk to her again. Rather you are going to make yourself better then contact her when the perod is over.

    January 23, 2015 at 11:57 am #25955
    Arjun
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    what should I be including in the message? but if i say i care for her and then do NC wont she think its bait of mixed signals ?

    January 23, 2015 at 12:25 pm #25956
    IamKramer
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    No contact will make her think about you more and give her and you time tothibk things over.

    Infact write a letter inatead of a cryptic message. Write what you feel but dont tell her you are going to do no contact.

    January 23, 2015 at 12:26 pm #25957
    IamKramer
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    Time to think things over

    January 23, 2015 at 12:38 pm #25958
    Arjun
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    she will ask stuff like
    what kind of things ?
    how long will I need to myself ?

    January 23, 2015 at 1:12 pm #25962
    IamKramer
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    Make up an excuse like school and stuff like that and dont give a definite time frame.

    Tell her you did love her. Deflect blame for the break up away from you by showing that yoi did love her.

    Next talk about your special moments, those where you felt you were truly in love. Talk about how her goals for her future inspire you everyday and you care about them.

    Then you can conclude.

    Dont tell her you are going to do NC.

    January 23, 2015 at 1:24 pm #25964
    Arjun
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    so ill post my letter on a new thread and get a lot of feedback on it 🙂 email me IamKramer you have been of great help and would love to have a method of contact with you in dire need lol. [email protected]

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