She doesn’t love me back

@nogilusprime
Keep it as a friendly hangout.

At the end of every relationship is a loss of trust, and you cannot get that trust back instantly. You have to take that spark of friendship and nurture it into a flame. It won’t be quick fix, it will take time.

I know I’m spruiking a little bit here, but I signed up for the paid course, and to be honest with you, I found it extremely helpful, and I think you might too, but there’s a specific part regarding to approaches regarding the conversation of getting back together – Direct, Semi-Direct and Indirect. It sounds like you’re going to need to take the indirect approach, i.e. do not bring it up.

You need to be confident in and of yourself that you will be OK with or without her, because she will see straight through you. If you can’t do that, then you need to continue with NC, because that mindset it everything.

If you are at the point, then fantastic. Keep the hangout as friendly, but read the room. You might find your conversations are growing emotionally deeper, and you’re both physically getting closer to each other, these things are good, but the absence of them isn’t bad, keep this in mind. Keep your conversations positive where possible, but if you can’t, make sure you’re empathizing with her and being an understanding person, whatever you do, try to steer clear of the flaws in your relationship unless you can 100% take responsibility for your side and prove to her how you have grown past that, if she dwells on the flaws, you need to find someway to shift the conversation.

Honestly, the best advice here is going to be to read the room. It’s a hugely powerful strategy.

Also look into a book called Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. The second half of the book kind of carries on, but the first half was very enlightening for me. If you can read the first half before meeting your ex, you’ll find yourself much better prepared.