No contact is not recommended

I’m confused. I’m getting all of the emails from Kevin and they have been helpful. The internet consensus seems to be that No Contact is the most effective way to get an ex back but in every email Kevin sends he is directing towards the Relationship Rewind program from Ryan Rivers. Well I got this program and Ryan Rivers does NOT recommend no contact. He seems to be a proponent of a false friendship where one stays in communication with the ex under the guise that you are just friends and then start to attempt to build attraction from that position.

My ex is dating someone else now. Last week she texted and called me for three days saying she still loved me and missed me and I held hope until I ended up blowing up with jealousy and fear when she started to pull back from me again. She stated that my blow up helped her to not have those feelings and become good with the break up again. I’m just starting no contact again. Yesterday was the first day after I asked her to meet me one last time so I can express how I feel before we split for good. She left because she felt I didn’t love her and this caused her pain in our three year relationship. It turns out that I just didn’t communicate my love to her in a way she could receive because we speak different love languages. My plan for the meeting was to speak her language and let her know that I do love her very much and want to spend my life with her but also let her go at the same time. I started to rethink that figuring it would only end up hurting me more and decided perhaps no contact would be better. Now that I’m reading this relationship rewind program that doesn’t recommmend no contact I”m confused again. Should I stay a part of her life and slowly build the attraction again. THe thing is I know she is attracted to me. She has always told me how drawn to me she is and that she is sure she will always feel that way but right now the pain of our relationship has become greater than the pain of the breakup for her and she has a new guy that makes that easier for her too. After last weeks emotional outpouring from her I am thinking maybe I should try to see her and reignite those feelings while I know she is still conflicted and before too much time passes.