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I think everyone who has successful got their ex back would never visit this site again and hoping that they never have too so the success stories would as well never come out.
The words of her friends would not have a big impact if you can somehow manage to re-connect with her. You will need something that can remind her of the good memories you two shared together.
I mean the guys who said their exes left before and then came back. Not the current break up.
How’d they come back? Because of NC?
Yeah possibly. I someone tried LC before.
How about sending her some luxury chocolates too?
-women love chocolates!That would seem too much. The idea is to give the message “hey this triggered this fun memory between” and to show appreciation for having the opportunity to have created memories like that together.
hhahaha yeah.
Keep it simple and trigger her memory.
Again it is up to you to judge her and predict how she will react.
From personal experience: Use your head and not your heart.
I wouldn’t send flowers or chocolates I think that screams I still have feelings for you. How many guys buy flowers for just friends or ex girlfriends?
I would really suggest just to send the magic letter or a text.Even if the breakup was because she didn’t feel cared for/appreciated?
@Nell Thanks for taking the time replying to me. I feel much better writing about my stuff here than talking it through with my friends or something. At least people here understand how I feel.
To be honest, I don’t know what she saw on that guy, despite he being much closer than me. But time will tell, I guess. What bothers me a lot is that if she would come back to me now, I would take it back easily and I don’t want that to happen. If she ever comes back and IF I still want her, i wanna give her a hard time.Btw, how did things work out for you?
@Martin definitely strange. I think it boils down to attraction being lost in my case. Me ex and I kind of fell into a routine like an old married couple, despite being only 24/25. I know for a fact she was not quite physically attracted to me as she said I let myself go, but was still in it for shagging. Her loss now that I’ve dropped 20+ pounds and am getting toned again. I’ve also let go of the negativity since the anxiety problems I had were a result from being with my ex.
I wouldn’t suggest sending her anything. Our exes, if they want to be treated not as exes and as friends or something more, need to earn respect and any sort of affection from us first. We deserve better.
I think what ever the reason you broke up you still shouldn’t send flowers or chocolates. Even if they didn’t feel appreciated because they aren’t your partner now so.you can’t start acting like they are.
They left us broke up with us so we shouldn’t go chasing them.They need to realise what they have done and what they have lost and want us back. By being too nice is not the way.Stay strong, keep up the nc and let them miss you.
I know its hard, I miss my ex terribly and am hurting because he has ran off with another girl and she has moved to live in his home country with him after they have been dating for 7 weeks!! How insane is that. Hurts me terribly.Reason I thought to do that was because the last time I spoke to my ex she was upset at her dad and said things like “do you know how much it sucks to always feel 2nd to everyone?” “How no one ever puts you first except for you?”
So I thought maybe it’ll make her feel like someone really cares for once? Idk
Maybe write a card or letter.
Flowers might be a bit too much and too late. Maybe send a ‘thinking of you’ at this hard time kind of card.I just worry in case it backfires for you.
@hayz and @confusedbutok
I would never get my ex flowers or chocolates. Though I do have a box of chocolate dates which I will give her if it was the last ever time we would meet.
My ex is happily moving on with her new bf. She broke up with me to be with him and hooked up on 18th December just 2 days before the Christmas break. After reuniting since last week I would assume that they have been spending endless time together.
I do still want her back even after everything but I fear she may never return.
Broke up end of Oct.
15 days of NC (round 3) and counting.BTW what should I do if my ex calls? I still have not figured this out…(I doubt she would but just want to be prepared).
@Nell She didn’t message me back that evening no, she went offline around the exact time that I messaged her but she did message me the following morning (Sunday).
She seems to only go online late at night if I do I think and this has led me to think that she is there and hoping that I will start all the conversations which I get tired of doing because I am thinking at times that she is showing a lack of interest despite some of the things she says when we are talking. I desperately want to see her doing some of the running again as when I see her online and not messaging me it doesn’t make me feel great.
I would really suggest you to start NC. I don’t think she appreciates you enough.
You need to make it sudden so it forces her in to grief a lot quickly.
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